They're out there? they look like people you know, but they're different. Someone has sucked out their brains and turned them into mindless oafs. They are dangers to society, dangers to your work environment, and dangers to themselves. But the most troubling fact is that they are in charge! They are making business decisions that affect your livelihood and you don't know what to do. Help is here!
Normally, when things go crazy most people turn to their supervisors or managers. But what do you do when the problem and the first source for assistance are one in the same?
1. Check your emotions. Emotional responses seldom solve problems. Locate a co-worker (a sane one, if possible) and vent your emotions. Redirecting your anger or frustration away from the person who can terminate your employment is a wise thing to do.
2. Sort out the details. List the issues you are facing and prioritize the list from most important to least important. Then work from the bottom of the list eliminating issues that aren't worth the fight. Ask, "Is fighting for this issue worth the potential consequences, such as jeopardizing my job?" If the answer is not a resounding, "YES!" eliminate the issue.
3. Organize your thoughts. Once you have identified the critical issues, get a pad of sticky notes and begin to write individual thoughts pertaining to each issue. Then organize the thoughts under each issue from strongest to weakest. Eliminate any statements that cannot be substantiated. What you want are straight-forward statements that lead to a solution. Building your case on assumptions and hearsay will be more destructive than constructive.
4. Rehearse your argument. Some thoughts are difficult to communicate, so practice saying what you intend to say. You might discover that your argument is clear in your head but stated in a confusing way. Enlist a neutral party to listen to your statements and to provide feedback or ask for clarification.
5. Be positive. A full frontal attack will put most anyone on the defensive, so approach the conversation with respect and a positive attitude. In addition to identifying the problem, offer to be a part of the solution. Ask for the privilege of helping develop a solution to the problem. A positive attitude will keep the conversation calm and prevent emotion from overtaking the thought process in which you engaged.
6. Accept the outcome. Realize up front that things might not go your way. Be satisfied with your effort to offer a solution. You can't control how other people respond; you can only control your reaction--and that can be a struggle sometimes! Many managers need time for suggestions to simmer. You might be surprised to see your suggestions incorporated into a future action.
7. Maintain confidentiality. One of the worst things you can do is leave the meeting and start telling everyone what took place. Show respect for your manager and your employer even if it requires biting your tongue. If you are so miserable that all you can do is complain, do everyone a favor and find another job! If you're the type of person who demands your way, chances are you'll find something wrong with every job and every boss!
There's no doubt that we find ourselves in frustrating situations having to implement plans that seem doomed from the start. Sometimes we reject ideas because of our disrespect for the person who generated the idea. We need to make sure that the person in the mirror isn't the real problem! Think about it!
Dr. Terry Hadaway is an author, editor, university professor, and conference leader. He is the author of 30 Seconds to Chaos: Mastering the Art of "What If" Thinking, and numerous articles. His is considered by many to be a leading authority on adult education and is a gifted communicator. For more information visit http://www.thinkezine.com.
whole house cleaning Deerfield ..Before we are able to use the Universal Thought System... Read More
Peak Performance. It means being at the top of your... Read More
From experience, one of the biggest stumbling blocks for people... Read More
Since the beginning of human history we have been living... Read More
How do you explain things to yourself? With positive self... Read More
When we were children, we were fearless. We would stick... Read More
ARE YOU IN... OR OUT?Are you in or out of... Read More
"It really works!" "Well, I'll be?!"BJ like so many others... Read More
Are you an optimist or a pessimist? Is the glass... Read More
I heard these words from a client who had been... Read More
Good morning I love you.This is a basic exercise, which... Read More
Uncle Liam was very kind to me again. He gave... Read More
I've yet to meet the person who never struggles with... Read More
A day in your life is a brief and precious... Read More
Fear is a double-edged sword. It can hold you back... Read More
If your life is difficult--if it's challenging, exasperating, and vexatious--... Read More
Living without limits. Living your life to the fullest. Living... Read More
Our attitude makes seems to control just about everything about... Read More
The others in the raft didn't seem to share Eddie's... Read More
"Spiritual Intelligence" (SI) is the ability of a person to... Read More
Turn negative thoughts into positive ones.Negative thoughts can be very... Read More
At your next staff meeting lead your team through the... Read More
No one becomes successful by accident. Motivational speaker Les Brown... Read More
When you have a case of FABS, it may be... Read More
We hear a lot these days about accepting responsibility for... Read More
home cleaning services Des Plaines ..If your life is difficult--if it's challenging, exasperating, and vexatious--... Read More
I'm often asked how it is that I stay so... Read More
You want to change your self-care habits and you can't... Read More
Most of us start the day like we're trying to... Read More
There are very many methods for achieving improvement to our... Read More
At some point in our careers, we may find ourselves... Read More
1. Smile2. Laugh3. Greet people courteously4. Be enthusiastic5. Dream. Engage... Read More
ARE YOU IN... OR OUT?Are you in or out of... Read More
One thing that is important to realize about thought: one... Read More
There are times that we encounter fearful thoughts that can... Read More
Changing Negative Thoughts into Positive Thoughts is a key lesson... Read More
There is a growing appreciation of the impact of psychic... Read More
I get emails and questions from people all the time... Read More
I was playing tennis today with one of my tennis... Read More
There are countless books that describe success principles. Here are... Read More
I'm lucky.When I was fifteen, I was the sole survivor... Read More
Year after year I find more and more individuals saying... Read More
Good morning I love you.This is a basic exercise, which... Read More
Would you like to be confident in the things you... Read More
One of our most active senses is sight. What we... Read More
Peak Performance. It means being at the top of your... Read More
The late Norman Vincent Peale was a controversial preacher who... Read More
There are times in all of our lives where our... Read More
Positive Affirmations are things we say to ourselves that build... Read More
When I was a young girl, my sister and I... Read More
Positive Attitude Tips |