Life is the greatest roller coaster ride we will ever take. The ups and downs, the unexpected changes, the twists and turns, are all a part of living. The roller coaster ride of life can be miserable and uncomfortable or exciting and rewarding. Our states of mind and body are key factors in how we handle these changes. The problems of life do not go away magically. We have to consciously work on making our lives more positive and joyful.
Once in an ENCHANTED SELF workshop, one woman related a story about her Thanksgiving dinner. She had recently suffered a painful and unexpected breakup with a boyfriend. Although she was experiencing grief, she had a strong inner desire to reclaim her sense of self and move forward with her life.
It was interesting to hear her speak about the family meal. As she looked around at her extended family seated at the table, she became filled with love and felt the love reflected back towards her. It was then that she made a conscious choice to stay focused in the moment, to remain in a loving state and to share that love with those around her.
There were some inner struggles during the course of the evening because Thanksgiving held poignant memories for her involving her ex-boyfriend. When these memories surfaced, she deliberately chose to put them aside. After the family gathering, she confidently exclaimed, "I won!"
Her conscious decision to remain in a positive state of being, coupled with the feelings of love that she felt toward everyone, were the most critical factors in staying focused in the moment. She had triumphed because she did not succumb to feelings of depression and pity. Like Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz when she clicked her heels and said, "there's no place like home," she realized that the things she was searching for -- strength, love and happiness--could be found in her "own backyard."
The support and love that comes from our family and friends, as well as the inner strength we develop when we get to know and accept ourselves, was right there.
We will always tussle with dark thoughts and the negative sides of our personalities. Sometimes there will be unpleasant events in our lives, but we can choose not to let these things invade our sense of self-dignity and worth. When we make conscious choices about how we will respond to difficult situations, we feel empowered. For that moment we are in charge of our destiny. Nobody ever said that achieving positive states of mind and body was easy, but then again nobody ever said it was hard. It's a matter of focusing on the positive, and self-education.
Positive memory retrieval is the tool that enhances our ENCHANTED SELF journey. Reaching a positive state of inner and outer harmony is the essence of THE ENCHANTED SELF. One way of reaching this state is to give love and support to our selves and to others. Let's make this year a year of growth, peace, harmony and shared optimism.
Exercise: Heightening Our Experience of Pleasure
This exercise is designed not only to help you remember and validate positive aspects of your past, but to emphasize the need to stay more attentive to positive happenings in the present that may precipitate pleasure.
Were there moments in your childhood when you felt particularly happy? These moments can be from any age -- from your earliest memories through young adulthood. When you find a golden memory, savor it. See yourself at that age and experiment with letting different senses reconnect to that happy time.
Take time to really enjoy this happy memory. Now scan your memory bank and the most recent past to see if you can think of one thing that you enjoyed doing in the last week. Give yourself permission to relive through your memory that pleasant time. Again, use all of your senses to reconnect you with that wonderful experience.
About The Author
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein , originator of THE ENCHANTED SELF?, a method of bringing delight and meaning into everyday living, invites you to view her new line of ENCHANTED WOMAN products, downloadable e-books, and free gifts at http://www.enchantedself.com. Chat with others in Dr. Holstein's e-group, http://www.enchantedself.com, and sign up for her free e-group at http://www.enchantedself.com. Order her book, THE ENCHANTED SELF: A Positive Therapy, or the CD-rom or tape version and her book RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT: The Secret Ingredient is YOU!, or the ED-rom version, at our website.
best cleaning company Highland Park .."Most overnight successes are just plain lucky. Just ask any... Read More
? Make a list of all your accomplishments in life... Read More
Aging is a matter of the mind.The years may creep... Read More
You are the only one that can give confidence to... Read More
Well you know about the young hero who saved his... Read More
ARE YOU IN... OR OUT?Are you in or out of... Read More
One Friday in November, I began a journey from New... Read More
There was some sunshine this weekend while I was writing... Read More
Discover how easy it is to improve your relationships. The... Read More
Ever had a problem with doubts? Ever felt that nagging... Read More
Positive self-esteem is very important if not crucial to our... Read More
"If I have the belief that I can do it,... Read More
Do you feel that your negative thoughts are holding you... Read More
Imagine what your life would be like if you could... Read More
I've had several coaching clients come to me who, while... Read More
Drinking damages the soul; being lustful damages the vitality; greed... Read More
"For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is... Read More
I'm a working mother with a preschooler, worrying about Mom... Read More
Our lives are busy. We rush here only to remember... Read More
"Work on your career and you'll make a living. Work... Read More
"You can't always get what you want . . ."... Read More
The late Norman Vincent Peale was a controversial preacher who... Read More
Need a way to make your life a better place... Read More
"Who am I fooling?" "I'm a loser," "I'm too old,"... Read More
Unhappy? Stressed out? Do you feel you not only want... Read More
high-end home cleaning Winnetka ..Every emotion, wether we classify it as good or bad,... Read More
"Spiritual Intelligence" (SI) is the ability of a person to... Read More
In the international bestseller, Blink, Malcolm Gladwell explains how researchers... Read More
In frustration it's easy to jump to false conclusions that... Read More
I don't know about you, but for me, the technological... Read More
I will never forget an evening in 2003, when I... Read More
I have had many confidence issues in my life, all... Read More
Gail's StoryGail is a friend of mine and she was... Read More
Well I've finally done it...I turned my heat on. After... Read More
Recently a great idea popped into my head about creating... Read More
Dear Friends,All human beings have a unique ability right from... Read More
I have a 440-page guide on how to simplify my... Read More
Facing a change and want to make it work for... Read More
Clear Conflict with Forgiveness:Forgiveness is the means to solve all... Read More
Life is the greatest roller coaster ride we will ever... Read More
What is an affirmation? One possible definition is a specific... Read More
No matter how positive a person we are overall, there... Read More
You don't need to a piece of paper to prove... Read More
We are all involved in this game called life and... Read More
How are you? That's a loaded question, and I'll tell... Read More
One of things that Charismatic people share is an unshakeable... Read More
What's wrong with me? When I'm sick I get grumpy... Read More
Almost everyone experiences some form of worry one time or... Read More
Have you ever known someone like this? "A person who... Read More
Have you ever dreaded an upcoming presentation, meeting or function... Read More
Positive Attitude Tips |