We all know them. We all have somebody like them at our workplace. Some of us have them as our neighbor. Some are related to them. Gosh - some poor souls even live with them. So who are these people I speak of?
What I am talking about are the Hannibal Lecters of society. Toxic people.
Toxic people enjoy telling you every reason why you can't or shouldn't do something. Tell them an idea and they will tell you it's no good. They hope that you won't achieve more than they can and really don't want you to succeed. They whine, they complain, they spread rumors, they are prone to ugly moods - a thundercloud follows their every move. They are the doomsayers. I'll bet you already have someone like this in mind as you read these very words.
Unlike the Hannibal Lecter of "Silence of the Lambs" fame, toxic people are not trying to eat your flesh. No. Toxic people want to consume other things - your confidence, your self-esteem, your dreams, your ambitions, your goals, your desires. I think you get the picture.
The best thing you can do if you find yourself in the presence of one of these people is to run, hide, make other plans. Just get away from them as fast as you can. The least amount of time you spend with them the better.
Toxic people will attempt to indoctrinate you with huge amounts of negative input in a very short space of time, so it is imperative that you limit your time with them. They are easy to recognize. Their language gives them away. Every time they open their mouth out comes a litany of everything that is wrong with them, you, the world and other people.
Recognizing positive and negative personality traits is one of the skills of personal development. Many excellent books exist on this subject but there are none better than "Personality Plus" written by Florence Littauer.
In her book, Florence Littauer defines personality traits. In it you will learn how to get along with the four main personality types, and the multiple combinations of them. I have had the privilege of hearing Florence speak and she is a truly gifted author and presenter.
By understanding your own personality traits and those of other people you will enhance your ability to get along with those who are important to you. If you are a Human Resource Officer, a General Manager, a salesperson, or just somebody who likes to get along with other people, what would this skill be worth to you?
Guard yourself against the Hannibal Lecter's of this world. Your life will be so much more fulfilling without their destructive influence.
[If you like this article and would like to use it on your own website or ezine you may do so ONLY if the article is not changed in any way and the final paragraph: "About the author", with all links intact, is included.]
About the author: Gary Simpson is the author of eight books covering a diverse range of subjects such as self esteem, affirmations, self defense, finance and much more. His articles appear all over the web. Gary's email address is budo@iinet.net.au. Click here to go to his budo@iinet.net.au website where you can receive his "Zenspirational Thoughts" plus an immediate FREE copy of his highly acclaimed, life-changing e-book "The Power of Choice."
best cleaning company Highland Park ..The other evening, I was meticulously assembling and painting one... Read More
How would you like to stop feeling like your life... Read More
Believe me, today is the most wonderful day of your... Read More
No one becomes successful by accident. Motivational speaker Les Brown... Read More
Change your attitude, change your lifeIn my experiences, I've found... Read More
Not Amen, just so we're clear on that.AND.The little connector... Read More
You wake up in the morning sleepy and fatigued; the... Read More
You may be facing a type of disappointment, frustration, loss,... Read More
Who are you?We all know that we are composed of... Read More
For the twelve hundred hostages, most especially Timur Kasumova.It's a... Read More
You don't need to a piece of paper to prove... Read More
How you feel about yourself truly does affect your interaction... Read More
Failure is my favorite subject. For I have spent my... Read More
A balanced life not only leaves you feeling more fulfilled;... Read More
I heard these words from a client who had been... Read More
"The knowledge of actions or events before they occur; foresight."You... Read More
Sometimes we are in a position to look into the... Read More
"We can change our circumstances by a mere change of... Read More
Do you realize that what we believe about ourselves, affects... Read More
Studies show that men and women profit most with having... Read More
Have you ever dreaded an upcoming presentation, meeting or function... Read More
One of the biggest potential problems we face with every... Read More
Living without limits. Living your life to the fullest. Living... Read More
One of our most active senses is sight. What we... Read More
"Someone was hurt before you; wronged before you, hungry before... Read More
high-end home cleaning Winnetka ..Failure is my favorite subject. For I have spent my... Read More
Imagine what your life would be like if you could... Read More
An affirmation is a positive assertion, a solemn declaration, a... Read More
You are already a winner, and so am I.Although you... Read More
One thing that is important to realize about thought: one... Read More
Ever witnessed an incident that needed to be reported to... Read More
Uncle Liam was very kind to me again. He gave... Read More
When you change your thoughts, you change your life. The... Read More
IntroductionDid your boss, took you for a ride? Did your... Read More
As if choreographed and rehearsed the night before, one lays... Read More
Philosophy of Forgiveness:The most powerful tool that human beings possess... Read More
John Ryder awakens feeling rested, refreshed, and sensing a calm... Read More
Speaking comes to most people as naturally as breathing. On... Read More
Turn brutality into kindness. There is no small deed and... Read More
So, do you love yourself?Shouldn't really be a difficult question... Read More
Many people don't really understand the gift they have been... Read More
The quality of your life is directly related to your... Read More
Dear Friends,All human beings have a unique ability right from... Read More
At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and... Read More
Quote of the week:"Of all the attitudes we can acquire,... Read More
I'm often asked how it is that I stay so... Read More
Many people would say that it is absolute madness to... Read More
As we enter this holiday season, and this time of... Read More
For the twelve hundred hostages, most especially Timur Kasumova.It's a... Read More
Positive Affirmations are things we say to ourselves that build... Read More
Positive Attitude Tips |