It's a fact of life - if you want to succeed in business, you need to know how to interact and communicate effectively with your employees, business partners, vendors, prospects, and customers. As a small business owner, this might involve rapid shifting from one type of language to another. For example, how you'd explain your expectations to your employees might be different than how you'd convey these to your business partner or potential client.
As we all know, sometimes language breaks down, and communication grinds to a halt. This can leave the owner feeling irritable, angry, frustrated... and with a desire to vent to his/her employees or staff.
While there may be instances that such sharing would be appropriate or helpful, there are many instances where this is not the case, and venting anyway may result in a significant loss of credibility and respect from key employees and contacts.
So, what are some effective ways to manage emotions in the work place environment?
1. Good self-care is the best medicine. An employer who tends to his/her own physical, emotional and mental needs, regularly, is going to be more adept at managing negative or hostile emotions at work. Start with adequate sleep, good nutrition, and regular exercise.
2. Know what anger and frustration feels like to you - both in your head and in your body. Sometimes, we can get really "cut off" from our feelings and act rashly without knowing why. Spend some time knowing what anger feels like to you, and where you notice it in your body.
3. Take a 10 minute walk. When you desire to "vent", excuse yourself from the office and take a brisk 10 minute walk around the parking lot or neighborhood. This will clear your mind and may save you from losing your temper.
4. Vent to a mentor, coach, or trusted colleague. The act of sharing your frustration and fears will calm you down. These people can support you and help you move forward.
5. Ask, "What am I afraid of?". Most often, anger or frustration appears when one of our fears has been activated. By going directly for the source of your feelings, you may be able to short-circuit them.
6. Make an exhaustive "do not want" list. In this list, you write down everything you do NOT want in the situation such as "to look foolish", "to be unprepared", etc.. Once you write this all down - ALL OF IT- you will clear your mind and be ready to generate productive solutions.
7. Distract yourself. Sometimes, getting your mind off the upsetting subject is enough to calm you down. Consider closing your door and playing computer games or something equally mindless (but absorbing). Shifting your focus will shift your attitude.
8. Ask, "What's working about this situation?" This tip comes from Kurt Wright's book, "Breaking the Rules", and suggests that we all can manage stress better if we start looking at "what's working" rather than "what's wrong". Many times, communication breakdowns or glitches can show you where better systems need to be created and placed and ultimately, will enhance the viability of your organization.
9. Take an action. Sometimes, when one piece of the business plan isn't moving, it may mean that another part is ready to be acted upon. Rather than feeling annoyed and frustrated, transform that energy into positive movement forward, where you can.
10. Make a strong request. If you would like something to be different, start the process of making it so. Contact key people, letting them know that you'd like to work on the impasse, and make your needs and those of your business known. Sometimes, just communicating about your desires in the form of an appropriate request can move situations along.
Regular use of these tips will help you stay well balanced & happy as your business grows and flourishes. Try them and see!
? 2003. Dr. Rachna D. Jain. All Rights in All Media Reserved.
About The Author
Dr. Rachna D. Jain is a sales and marketing coach and Director of Operations for SalesCoachTraining.com. Sign up for her free email newsletter, "Sales & Marketing Secrets" To learn more or to contact Dr. Jain directly, please visit http://www.salesandmarketingcoach.com
maide service in Park Ridge ..Aging is a matter of the mind.The years may creep... Read More
I was playing tennis today with one of my tennis... Read More
Does that title make you cringe? It made me cringe... Read More
Our initial reaction when hitting a setback or a "roadblock,... Read More
There are times that we encounter fearful thoughts that can... Read More
What do you do when things in your life don't... Read More
No matter how positive a person we are overall, there... Read More
Everyone faces challenges during their life, from suffering the death... Read More
The Alchemists of old worked over many years, centuries, in... Read More
Apart form the Emotions and the attitude, Anger is a... Read More
The universe is vast, it's dimensions inconceivable, it's potentialities unimaginable,... Read More
Millions struggle through life barely earning enough to survive. Many... Read More
One of the most important aspects of living a healthy... Read More
I will never forget an evening in 2003, when I... Read More
"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is... Read More
Q: I seem to beat myself before I ever get... Read More
So what is a limiting belief?Don't you love the current... Read More
Do you wish you had high self-confidence? Some of us... Read More
Most of us love to think that our problems are... Read More
Woe is me... life has dealt me a bad hand...... Read More
Many of you may look at my title and wonder... Read More
You've probably heard this idea at one time or another.... Read More
"The difference between a stumbling block and a stepping stone... Read More
Our lives are busy. We rush here only to remember... Read More
Everyone of us has the potential to successfully more through... Read More
after renovation cleaning Highland Park ..Improving this single attitude makes your days fly by. You... Read More
Have you ever thought about you have a lot to... Read More
Spring is here at last! The season brings with it... Read More
Does the thought of failure send a cold shiver down... Read More
Using an opponent's force against them is the fundamental teaching... Read More
If you work toward what you dream, the dream can... Read More
One of our most active senses is sight. What we... Read More
Turn negative thoughts into positive ones.Negative thoughts can be very... Read More
Knowing yourself is the foundation of self-esteem, self confidence and... Read More
Your ability to forgive those who have hurt you in... Read More
Your response (reaction?) to change is conditioned by your entire... Read More
"I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious."... Read More
Life shouldn't be so complicated. Have you ever wondered why... Read More
Few people are aware of the thoughts that pass through... Read More
When I was little I was very busy--as I imagine... Read More
In talking with a coaching client recently, she made a... Read More
John Ryder awakens feeling rested, refreshed, and sensing a calm... Read More
So people will reject us no matter how good we... Read More
If you suffer with or have in the past suffered... Read More
I heard these words from a client who had been... Read More
No one becomes successful by accident. Motivational speaker Les Brown... Read More
"In life, if you give yourself a concession, you'd take... Read More
Did you ever run into that person that just nags... Read More
There are times that we encounter fearful thoughts that can... Read More
Many times when an angry or rageful man comes into... Read More
Positive Attitude Tips |