A certain educator was once asked at what point should a parent begin to prepare for child raising.
"How old are you?" the educator inquired.
"Twenty-three."
"You should begin twenty-three years ago."
What is the message? The single most important thing a parent can do to educate a child is to provide the child with a good role model. A parent has to work a whole lifetime becoming the type of person that he wants his child to become.
The most important people in the world in the child's eyes are his parents. They are his first and most important teachers. The behavior of a child's parents leaves a permanent impression in the child's subconscious mind. Why is this so? The reason is that the most reliable source of priorities and values in a child's eyes is his parents. Children have an innate trust in their parents. They feel that everything their parents say and do is the true and proper way to behave.
We all wish our children would do what we say and not what we do. However, this is not how the mind of a child works. The intellect of a child is undeveloped. As a result, children function an emotional level, absorbing more from what they see and hear around them than from what they are taught.
What is the take home message? The main thing for you to realize is that you have far more influence on your child than you probably realize. Your child is going to pattern himself after you. That is how nature set it up. Your job as a parent is to be the best role model that you can be. True, it is hard, but that is the way it is.
The following is a story I heard recently that brings out the extent to which your child learns from your actions.
A certain kindergarten teacher once warned a group of parents to be careful how they behave in front of their children.
"By the way your children play in school," she said. "I know which of you treat each other respectfully. I know which of you use foul language at home. I know everything about how you behave in your home by the way your child plays, talks, and behaves."
Remember, you might think that everything that goes on in your home behind closed doors is hidden from the world, but it is not. Your child sees everything. Your child is going to take your behavior and broadcast it to the world. Make sure that what he is transmitting is something that you want the world to see.
About The Author
Anthony Kane, MD is a physician, an international lecturer, and director of special education. He is the author of a book, numerous articles, and a number of online programs dealing with ADHD (addadhdadvances.com/childyoulove.html) treatment, ODD, parenting issues (addadhdadvances.com/childyoulove.html), and education. You may visit his website at addadhdadvances.com/childyoulove.html. To sign up for the free ADD ADHD Advances online journal send a blank email to: addadhdadvances.com/childyoulove.html
addadhdadvances.com/childyoulove.html
insured cleaning company Deerfield ..A growing body of scientific evidence shows that the way... Read More
Kitchens are where everything happens. It's not just where meals... Read More
Parents are in a unique position to "monitor" their children's... Read More
As a parent, you probably know that the birthday party... Read More
Here are fourteen spontaneous time-outs, specially designed to help you... Read More
Is it possible to be using our children addictively?Anything that... Read More
Studies have shown that:1 out of 4 children were sent... Read More
When is a person brilliant? When does a person show... Read More
John Bishop's Goal Setting for Students.comLegacy to Your ChildrenIt's 6:30... Read More
Being a parent is a role that requires a large... Read More
Self-reliance and potential are two very important values that I'd... Read More
If your parenting methods include abuse of any kind; physical,... Read More
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is the phrase that is... Read More
Mother's Day is important for children.This Mother's Day take note... Read More
Your Virgo Baby..August 23 - September 22Virgo children are honest... Read More
In memory of 14 year old Matthew Smith; 11 year... Read More
Research published by University of Rochester neuroscientists C. Shawn Green... Read More
The time you will need to teach your children the... Read More
When you're a parent it's a difficult decision to know... Read More
Ever blown your top to your children, only to regret... Read More
It's among the top criticism wives have of their husbands:... Read More
Paula's last child had just gone off to college and... Read More
It's sometimes difficult to find ways to be involved with... Read More
If you're looking for toys that are both fun to... Read More
What would it be like to have a clone? What... Read More
top rated cleaning service Bannockburn ..All children will likely have many different health problems during... Read More
In elementary school it's pretty straightforward: bringing in cupcakes to... Read More
Sitterphobe "I never have a second to myself," this mother... Read More
It is extraordinary times that we find ourselves in. Change... Read More
The Real Dangers to Kids Online and How to Avoid... Read More
Predicament:My son is 4 1/2 years old. His younger brother... Read More
1. STOP focusing on what you are going to make... Read More
When my firstborn arrived into this serene and peaceful household,... Read More
It's been raining for a week and the kids and... Read More
Corolle Paul or Emma Drink-and-Wet SET potty dollsThis is the... Read More
While youth gangs are nothing new -- they've been traced... Read More
There has been much attention in the media of late... Read More
Giving with a happy heart. If you teach a child... Read More
Single parenting has seemingly become an acceptable norm which is... Read More
Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
Today's dads are more hands-on than ever before and their... Read More
It can be said that any man who procreates is... Read More
Who lives in your house? Are they driving you "crazy?"... Read More
Sometime the most effective training tool in rapidly accelerating the... Read More
Reading to your child at a young age is one... Read More
Although many parents become frustrated as they try to maintain... Read More
Identity and Your Fraternal TwinFor the most part, throughout this... Read More
Parents are in a unique position to "monitor" their children's... Read More
Peaceful Parenting? ideas are very different from other kinds of... Read More
The public school system in America has become a dismal... Read More
Parenting |