Incest is sexual activity, ranging from fondling to intercourse, between family members who aren't married to one another. State laws vary regarding the type of sexual activity and also on what constitutes the type of kinship that indicates incest rather than just sexual abuse.
Some definitions include teachers, neighbors, step families, baby sitters, ministers/priests and others who are in the circle of influence of a child and have established an emotional bond. That is why it is so hard to get substantiated statistics, because referring to the same thing by different names and different things by the same name often creates confusion.
Incest has been cited as the most common form of child abuse and yet it is an extremely under-reported crime. This type of abuse and betrayal of trust has the most potential for psychological and emotional harm to children. Incest has been called a violation of the child where he or she lives by a person who has trust and authority over them. A child molested by a stranger can run home for help and comfort. A victim of incest cannot. Who commits incest?
Generally it is considered incest if the child has been used in a sexual manner by: fathers, or step-fathers, mothers, or step-mothers, brothers, sisters or cousins as well as members of their extended family such as grandparents, aunts and uncles.
? In cases of incest, is there just one child abused?
Sometimes the oldest child, or the girl, or one who is handicapped, or the one with long hair or it could be all of the children. There is no way to determine what the pattern of fantasy an offender has. If a grandfather is found to be abusing a ten year old granddaughter, it would be wise to err on the side of caution and protect all the children. He should be held accountable for his acts, whether it was one child or a multi-generational cycle of abuse.
Incest can happen in any family and can happen one time or be an on-going problem. People who were themselves victims of physical and sexual abuse may not know any other way to relate to their children. Boundaries are crossed and sacred trusts are broken. Sometimes there is confusion in family roles and if the parent is absent, either physically or emotionally, the child is forced into that role. Sometimes an adult will rationalize what they are doing is a "service" to the child to teach them about sex and prepare them for adulthood.
Whatever the reason or the excuse the offender uses, it is wrong! Adults are responsible for protecting, loving and nurturing children, not traumatizing and hurting them.
Incest becomes very confusing for the child involved. Many times the perpetrator really does love and value the child, but chooses an inappropriate way of expressing that love.
? Judy H. Wright, Parent Educator, www.artichokepress.com
This article was written by Judy Wright, parent educator and author. Feel free to use it in your newsletter or publication, but please give full credit to the author and mention the contact information of JudyWright@ArtichokePress.com, 406-549-9813.
You will find a full listing of books, tapes, newsletters and workshops available on finding the heart of the story in the journey of life by going to www.artichokepress.com
Oak Lawn bmw rental chicago .. Lockport Chicago limo O’HareIf you were to ask 100 parents why they think... Read More
When I was pregnant, we knew that we had some... Read More
Just the other day my oldest son asked:"Daddy, am I... Read More
Ever feel like you're out of the loop when it... Read More
It can be difficult on all family members to have... Read More
Many families do not want to believe their child is... Read More
I could nearly fund my children's future education if I... Read More
Predicament:My son is 4 1/2 years old. His younger brother... Read More
Do you praise your child when he fulfils a basic... Read More
What do you do when your child begins talking to... Read More
As parents and teachers, sometimes we want to praise, at... Read More
Teenagers are a work-in-progress, and parenting teenagers can be tricky... Read More
Levels of SafetyBy teaching our children there are different levels... Read More
"I took care of Callie," my three-year-old announced.Callie had been... Read More
One of the implications of the current trend toward smaller... Read More
When we consider that the word allowance means, "allowing for,"... Read More
When a parent is deployed with the military it can... Read More
I recall somewhere in the recesses of my aging brain... Read More
"Get down from the table top right now! What are... Read More
The time you will need to teach your children the... Read More
Giving advice to a teenager is very easy; getting a... Read More
The back-to-school shopping is done. Brand new pencils, colored markers,... Read More
If you are currently homeschooling or considering homeschooling your child,... Read More
Ask any teacher or adolescent counselor what the most disturbing... Read More
Summertime means insect bites and stings. Ouch! Take a leaf... Read More
ohare limo service Avoca ..Nanny 911 Interview with Montel WilliamsI saw an interview with... Read More
Is your baby approaching his or her first birthday and... Read More
The following spelling games can be used by parents to... Read More
"Not another meeting!"That tends to be the reaction from many... Read More
The wonderful adaptability of children in dealing with the challenges... Read More
Vinegar or honey, what do kids really want? "Toys, candy,... Read More
Fizzy sherbet in a paper bag with a strawberry lollipop... Read More
OK, moms and dads out there, we hear you when... Read More
Many public schools not only fail to educate our children,... Read More
For troubled teens who are struggling with drug abuse, depression... Read More
Several similar terms describe the central attribute of a character... Read More
The time you will need to teach your children the... Read More
Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
A growing body of scientific evidence shows that the way... Read More
Best friends! It may seem impossible to believe, but today's... Read More
I hear from many parents that their child is stressed... Read More
When you think about it, probably the one thing that... Read More
Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
The biggest trick some child predators' are using these days... Read More
"Just turn the lights off and go to sleep"Do you... Read More
Information is gold when you are adopted. Every tiny piece... Read More
My oldest boy is fifteen and was a real jerk... Read More
Night Visits From Your ChildIn the middle of the night... Read More
Do you want your child to cooperate with you more?Children... Read More
When my oldest daughter was born, I walked the floor... Read More
Parenting |