"Now don't you go getting any ideas, Harold."
"Don't you get any ideas either, Terry."
"Don't you two get any ideas."
The young mother's words to her small children echoed in my head for several days. While I realized she was probably warning them to not do something against her wishes or something that could harm them, I can't help but wonder about the effects that a situation like that, heard over and over for a period of years, will have on their lives and their ability to realize their potential.
Flash forward - It's 20 years later and now little Howard and Terry are all grown up, sitting in a conference room where they both work as marketing managers, having graduated at the top of their classes in college.
The CEO is pacing back and forth saying, "Okay gang, what we need now, if we want to save this company, are some really good ideas." As their bosses words trail off, Howard and Terry are jolted back in time to that day at the Eagle Diner. All they can hear is their mother's voice telling them not to get any ideas. The conflict that this is causing has blocked their creative abilities. The contribution they might have made has been stifled by a poor choice of phrasing some 20 years ago.
I know this sounds a bit extreme but if you stop and think about it, this happens all the time. We are constantly being conditioned by the messages we hear, especially in our formative years.
We use phrases like "don't get smart" and then wonder why children are doing poorly in school. There is a connection. Whatever is repeated, over and over, will be absorbed into the sub?conscious mind of the person listening, in this case your children. McDonalds knows this, as does every other successful advertiser.
In my seminars I ask people to complete this phrase. Winston tastes good like a ____. Even audience members in their 20's can complete this advertising slogan, though it hasn't been used for more than 20 years. The words you choose and the phrases you use repeatedly will have a lasting impact on your children. Why not choose words that will help them realize their potential as unique, creative, bright, loving, powerful and successful human beings?
Imagine what could happen if you made a habit of using positive, empowering, self-esteem building messages every day? Imagine all your children could become!
Decide right now to create some positive messages you can implant in the young minds of your children. Make a daily habit of using positive messages when speaking to your children.
For example, you might say, "You know (childs name), every day you're getting better and better in every way." (This is a take off on a phrase from Claude Bristol's classic self help book, The Magic of Believing).
? 2004 Jim Donovan - PO Box 1147, Buckingham, PA 18912 - (215) 794-3826
Jim Donovan is the author of "Handbook to a Happier Life, a motivational speaker and coach. For a no cost bonus product & more, visit http://www.jimdonovan.com
If you had all the information and tools you needed to live your dream life, would you use them? Yes? Click here ==> http://www.jimdonovan.com
kitchen deep cleaning Deerfield ..Is it possible to be using our children addictively?Anything that... Read More
One of parents' most important duties is to protect their... Read More
Attention all parents of teen-agers. Here is an important, groundbreaking... Read More
Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
A strange thing happened to me today. Or more precisely,... Read More
In an actual war, to be attacked means to have... Read More
Words are truly powerful things. They are something that becomes... Read More
I was in the life insurance sales industry for over... Read More
Does music need to be "dumbed-down" for kids? The answer... Read More
Parental Alienation Syndrome was probably first identified and codified by... Read More
Should a parent give a child a tangible reward when... Read More
"If a kid asks where rain comes from, I think... Read More
Do you struggle to get your child to bed at... Read More
I've often thought that in 6 million years, archaeologists will... Read More
Would you hand a child calculus problems once she was... Read More
Reading is the most important skill that a child must... Read More
Thank you for all that you do in the classroom!... Read More
Here is something that you might want to keep if... Read More
Have you heard the song; "I Hope You Dance"? It... Read More
Encouragement comes when you focus on your child's assets and... Read More
Who Can Register A Birth? The child's mother... Read More
Karen, a single never-married thirty-year old attorney has a four-year... Read More
Many families do not want to believe their child is... Read More
Several similar terms describe the central attribute of a character... Read More
When David was nine and Laura was twelve, the battles... Read More
interior house cleaning Highland Park ..Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
There are several treatment options available to help improve the... Read More
Who Can Register A Birth? The child's mother... Read More
In theory, working at home is an ideal situation. But... Read More
My cousin boasts five names and I confess that when... Read More
Even if your teenagers do not use drugs, you still... Read More
Anyone can become a parent; there are no tests or... Read More
As a parent there are lots of things that you... Read More
This is the third and final article in a series... Read More
Studies have shown that:1 out of 4 children were sent... Read More
Strollers offer a wonderful and convenient service to parents and... Read More
Memorabilia ? Children can create enough artwork for an entire... Read More
Words are truly powerful things. They are something that becomes... Read More
As I sit here and reflect on the past two... Read More
Does your child pout, blame and brood? Does he gripe,... Read More
Just as every snowflake is unique, so is every child.... Read More
Have you made your usual New Year resolutions? You know... Read More
One of the most powerful tools that parents have for... Read More
There is no doubt that mothers play an all-important leading... Read More
There are some grounds to assume that a cognitive dissonance... Read More
It was no contest. Given a choice between a ball... Read More
In the last few years, parents started getting more and... Read More
"In general my children refuse to eat anything that hasn't... Read More
You know that children can get into trouble. The older... Read More
I was in the life insurance sales industry for over... Read More
Parenting |