Most people have more training before they receive their driver's license than before they become a parent. Educating yourself on how to communicate effectively with your child can be the key to achieving your parenting goals. If you do not have children of your own, these 10 tips can help you whenever you are around children.
You can 'prime the pump' by talking with them about their favorite foods, toys, movies, video games, etc.
Parents are constantly making the error of educating their child when their child expresses pain. "I hate my nose" is often responded to with, "you have a perfectly good nose" and the child is left to feel all alone with what could become an enormous problem for them in years to come.
One technique is to teach your children to lightly touch your arm and to wait peacefully and quietly to be acknowledged by you. Children who interrupt miss a chance to learn to control their impulses and can upset the flow of an adult's conversation.
For example, you could put something such as a coin in a hand behind your back and ask the child to guess which hand it is in. This is a way to build a strong connection with a child and make a child feel honored.
It may have been months since any adult has joined the child on their own level.
Play is the language of a child. If you stop for even thirty seconds to draw a picture alongside of a child who is coloring, you could become one of their heroes.
Make the stories up or pull them from your own childhood. Stories can be used to build a connection, to teach a lesson, or just to leave a child feeling better than when the conversation began.
Children are usually more hurt than adults by broken promises. Ironically, many people treat their promises to children as less important than their promises to adults.
Most adults do not interact with children who are present because the children are not able to meet their needs the way that an adult can. Five minutes invested in the life of a child will pay dividends that an hour invested in the life of an adult may not.
This means that instead of expressing facts or lecturing that you ask a question to stimulate the child's own reasoning process. Socratic questioning opens up a place in a person's mind for the answer to be remembered. For example, you could ask, "How do you think we could take better care of the puppy?" instead of telling your child what to do.
About The Author
This piece was written by Dr. Clare Albright, Psychologist and Parenting Coach, and author of "100 Tips for Parents of Two Year Olds", which can be downloaded for only $5.77 from http://www.parentsoftwoyearolds.com
professional maid services Park Ridge ..It's back to school time again. Does the thought of... Read More
Even though the "Stop and Think" movement in ADHD treatment... Read More
Every parent wants their child to develop positive character traits.... Read More
Researched through personal experience!Budget Your Money. Even if you are... Read More
For the first year or two of life outside the... Read More
It's the third time this week that Sam has complained... Read More
Each child carries a unique picture of the self, shaped... Read More
As a parent is seems that the majority of your... Read More
Do your children have a McChildhood? Do they experience the... Read More
How are parents to know they are doing the right... Read More
Mealtimes together deserve an important place in any family. Around... Read More
In today's mental health system there is a pattern of... Read More
How often do you think of family life as an... Read More
If you are currently homeschooling or considering homeschooling your child,... Read More
Oh yes you have! Suddenly, "Where's Bobby?" You instantly realize... Read More
Compulsory attendance laws are school authorities' first assault on parental... Read More
Today the little red school house is not what it... Read More
With the beginning of the new school year coming VERY... Read More
Frankly, as a single parent of young children, I struggled.... Read More
Congratulations on your new baby! You have just brought your... Read More
Q. "What do you want to be when you grow... Read More
1. Create... Read More
Studies have shown that:1 out of 4 children were sent... Read More
What parent hasn't gone into a son's or daughter's room... Read More
Nothing touches the heartstrings of a parent or teacher more... Read More
cleaning lady near Lincolnshire ..There are times when my ideas of raising a child... Read More
Past experience with federal education programs predicts that the No... Read More
We are all so very happy to see that the... Read More
Ask parents what their biggest school year challenge is, and... Read More
There is little doubt that reading, 'riting and 'rithmetic are... Read More
Here are fourteen spontaneous time-outs, specially designed to help you... Read More
Does your child pout, blame and brood? Does he gripe,... Read More
Not all parents subscribe to the notion of "tough love,"... Read More
Having a baby is one of the most exciting times... Read More
Fall marks the beginning of many new things both for... Read More
There is no doubt that the benefits of being a... Read More
Here in Kansas, where we live, the leaves are turning... Read More
Before going further into choosing computers for children, I believe... Read More
Non-compliance is the family therapist's big word for your child... Read More
OK, moms and dads out there, we hear you when... Read More
Isn't the technology of today is amazing?! Between the speed... Read More
Recess has begun disappearing in states all around the country.... Read More
School authorities often complain that classes are too large. They... Read More
One of the most powerful tools that parents have for... Read More
We all wish that our children should not smoke or... Read More
We were sitting in the family room. My kids had... Read More
Our children are our most important legacy to the world.... Read More
Parents, do you have children who do poorly in school,... Read More
Here are some things that you can do to help... Read More
Do you want to create a deeper, more loving relationship... Read More
Parenting |