Most people have more training before they receive their driver's license than before they become a parent. Educating yourself on how to communicate effectively with your child can be the key to achieving your parenting goals. If you do not have children of your own, these 10 tips can help you whenever you are around children.
You can 'prime the pump' by talking with them about their favorite foods, toys, movies, video games, etc.
Parents are constantly making the error of educating their child when their child expresses pain. "I hate my nose" is often responded to with, "you have a perfectly good nose" and the child is left to feel all alone with what could become an enormous problem for them in years to come.
One technique is to teach your children to lightly touch your arm and to wait peacefully and quietly to be acknowledged by you. Children who interrupt miss a chance to learn to control their impulses and can upset the flow of an adult's conversation.
For example, you could put something such as a coin in a hand behind your back and ask the child to guess which hand it is in. This is a way to build a strong connection with a child and make a child feel honored.
It may have been months since any adult has joined the child on their own level.
Play is the language of a child. If you stop for even thirty seconds to draw a picture alongside of a child who is coloring, you could become one of their heroes.
Make the stories up or pull them from your own childhood. Stories can be used to build a connection, to teach a lesson, or just to leave a child feeling better than when the conversation began.
Children are usually more hurt than adults by broken promises. Ironically, many people treat their promises to children as less important than their promises to adults.
Most adults do not interact with children who are present because the children are not able to meet their needs the way that an adult can. Five minutes invested in the life of a child will pay dividends that an hour invested in the life of an adult may not.
This means that instead of expressing facts or lecturing that you ask a question to stimulate the child's own reasoning process. Socratic questioning opens up a place in a person's mind for the answer to be remembered. For example, you could ask, "How do you think we could take better care of the puppy?" instead of telling your child what to do.
About The Author
This piece was written by Dr. Clare Albright, Psychologist and Parenting Coach, and author of "100 Tips for Parents of Two Year Olds", which can be downloaded for only $5.77 from http://www.parentsoftwoyearolds.com
same day cleaning service Bannockburn ..Not Letting Them Think.We all implicitly know that anything questioning... Read More
Every year over one million parents have to talk to... Read More
So your little Susie wants to join a competitive gymnastic... Read More
Q. How do we decide what our teens should be... Read More
Bearers of life, wipers of noses, givers of unconditional love... Read More
Do you want to create a deeper, more loving relationship... Read More
I know as a single parent or even with 2... Read More
Often, the struggle at dinnertime with your picky eater is... Read More
Saying no to our children is not always easy or... Read More
Let's be honest! When it comes to parenting, men expect... Read More
For over fifty years, public-school officials and politicians have tried... Read More
As the flurry of Back to School activities subside, parents... Read More
"Before every action, ask yourself: Will this bring more monkeys... Read More
Are you a parent concerned about passing values on to... Read More
"Will my doubts and fears affect my child?" This father... Read More
How often do you think of family life as an... Read More
It's the first day of the summer holiday. Five year-old... Read More
We all want to comfort our children after they suffer... Read More
As with everything, names go through cycles of change with... Read More
Nothing touches the heartstrings of a parent or teacher more... Read More
Giving with a happy heart. If you teach a child... Read More
What do you mean average? Not good? Just doing good... Read More
Family meetings provide opportunities for feelings to be aired and... Read More
Wooden toys are one of the best alternatives for the... Read More
Tripping over the shoes and toys that seem to clutter... Read More
housekeepers near Deerfield ..Q. My daughter is a junior in high school and... Read More
"My son won't go to bed at night without a... Read More
"In general my children refuse to eat anything that hasn't... Read More
Parents are in a unique position to "monitor" their children's... Read More
Sometime the most effective training tool in rapidly accelerating the... Read More
My kids just can't get enough of playing games with... Read More
It's funny how people seem to think that they have... Read More
What exactly makes safety glasses different from regular glasses? There... Read More
Vacations and trips are great family events, but how do... Read More
Parents, do you have children who do poorly in school,... Read More
Your daughter tells you that Uncle Charley has touched her... Read More
KIDS AND THE NEWSMore than ever, children witness innumerable, sometimes... Read More
During the assessment process it is of great importance for... Read More
I know as a single parent or even with 2... Read More
So, the thing is? I am feeling a little guilty.I... Read More
Something eerily familiar happened in KwaZulu-Natal's Hluhluwe-Umfolozi Park in Africa... Read More
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is the phrase that is... Read More
Time management is an organisational concept traditionally associated with adults... Read More
Tripping over the shoes and toys that seem to clutter... Read More
Most people with children want to be good parents. The... Read More
Why Is Spending Time with Your Child So Important?For children... Read More
At the ADHD Information Library we are big believers that... Read More
The advances in science over the past century have been... Read More
Many children are jittery on the first day of school.... Read More
A great many parents are concerned that the electronic games... Read More
Parenting |