It's funny how people seem to think that they have spent quality time with their kids after work by bringing them out to the mall for a lifeless and meaningless stroll only to come home with nothing more than a whole bunch of stuff that they (or the kids) don't need. In fact, time has been wasted because kids don't NEED you to bring them out to the shopping mall to waste time. They want and NEED to be with you.
It's really funny because I used to think taking my kids out for a very casual window-shopping trip was meaningful too until someone pointed out to me that my kids were STILL closer to someone else (their daycaregiver) when compared to me. I mean, what is it with kids, anyway? I take them out, don't I? I try my best to give them whatever they want. I buy them presents, don't I? They have more clothes than me, don't they?
But here's the sad part?.that's not quality time.
Quality time with your kids is just staying home with absolutely nothing to do, just lolling around on the carpet watching 'Blue's Clues' or 'Sesame Street' together giving each other nonchalant kisses and exchanging hugs (and repeated reviews about the show). Spending quality time with the kids involve nothing more than just CONNECTING with the kids, not spending detached moments of dis-connectivity loitering through unfamiliar places. It's about spending time connecting with the kids when you KNOW you've GOT SOMETHING ELSE BETTER TO DO.
I spent one whole Friday thinking about what to do with the kids on Saturday and Sunday and end up with nothing. So, on the weekends, we spent hours in front of the TV coloring bananas, gorillas, and calculator on pieces of paper. We, then, took the bicycle to the park and cycled around. Joshua got scrapes on his knees and Jared was more than unhappy with the fact that his big brother made more 'sand castles' in the park than he did ? but we all came home knowing that we knew each other better.
You see, spending quality time with the kids is all about getting to know your kids. Making an effort to be there for them when you know you CAN be doing something else with your life. We know we can use that time to actually finish off the report or call that important client up ? but the most important thing with quality time with kids is that we DON'T.
? Marsha Maung 2005
Please feel free to reprint this article anywhere in your website, magazine, ezine, or other types of publications for free. Please note that you should keep the byline in tact and please provide links back to the web addresses provided in the byline. Thanks.
Marsha Maung is a freelance graphic designer and copy writer who works from home. She designs apparel and premium items at http://www.creativejooz.com and http://www.creativejooz.com and is the author of "Raising little magicians", and the popular "The Lance in freelancing". More information can be found at http://www.creativejooz.com
affordable house cleaning Wilmette ..Life is full of competition -- even in childhood. Kids... Read More
Although many parents become frustrated as they try to maintain... Read More
Kitchens are where everything happens. It's not just where meals... Read More
Many parental units are not "techies" and openly admit they... Read More
I recall somewhere in the recesses of my aging brain... Read More
While youth gangs are nothing new -- they've been traced... Read More
From the book Spider's Night on the BoomI've only begun... Read More
Speaking as a Michael (a Hebrew name, meaning "Who is... Read More
Many children enjoy TV, and they can learn from it.... Read More
Vouchers, which give tax money to parents to pay for... Read More
I have a bit of a different response than most... Read More
A certain educator was once asked at what point should... Read More
Perhaps I could make a lot of money by founding... Read More
How are parents to know they are doing the right... Read More
Teachers know that children thrive in an environment with routines,... Read More
For the most positive daycare experience for your child, partner... Read More
Q. With the school year just beginning, what can we... Read More
As a parent, you can learn a lot about your... Read More
It's among the top criticism wives have of their husbands:... Read More
Parents want their children to succeed in school. However, sometimes... Read More
Child Car Seat Safety:We know you love your children, but... Read More
There are a few points about shyness in children which... Read More
Seven-year old Michael was on a school trip to a... Read More
It's been said, time and again, that for a child... Read More
If You're Having Twins..is it double the headache, or double... Read More
quick home cleaning Northbrook ..I know this Mom. She homeschools her 5 children, plus... Read More
A strange thing happened to me today. Or more precisely,... Read More
What parent hasn't gone into a son's or daughter's room... Read More
Here we will come to know who are the most... Read More
"All that I am or ever hope to be, I... Read More
Julia Roberts recently gave birth to twins: Hazel and Phinnaeus.... Read More
On a bright Sunday morning, a couple of weeks ago,... Read More
For many adults, reading a book or newspaper seems effortless.... Read More
Elana, born in Russia, was told "We really don't know... Read More
There are a LOT of alternative treatments for sale out... Read More
In memory of 14 year old Matthew Smith; 11 year... Read More
The disquieting behavior of teenagers in the 21st century, is... Read More
There is no doubt that mothers play an all-important leading... Read More
Every parent wants their child to develop positive character traits.... Read More
1 - Forgive even if you will never be able... Read More
Throughout the year, many days of celebration are tucked capriciously... Read More
Child care costs are are one of the most expensive... Read More
A sure way to double the joys of parenthood is... Read More
Who lives in your house? Are they driving you "crazy?"... Read More
We are all aware of the child obesity epidemic that... Read More
Information is gold when you are adopted. Every tiny piece... Read More
Compulsory attendance laws are school authorities' first assault on parental... Read More
Blink. That's all we did, blink, and summer is ending... Read More
A sure way to double the joys of parenthood is... Read More
Early childhood educators have called play "children's work". Many parents... Read More
Parenting |