I used to have a really challenging job. It was stressful and demanding, high pressure and large responsibilities.
I was really good at it too. Really, I was.
Then I became a parent.
In my old job, I was really good at delegating, training, developing and managing people...and rationalizing.
Oh, could I rationalize.
"I may have to work 60 or 70 hours a week, but I'm providing my girls with security, money for college, a comfortable life."
"Yes, I have to be out of town for a week at a time several times a year, but I'm providing a strong role model for my daughters."
I was a hard working, professional, career woman. And I was as misinformed as could be.
I used to say to my husband, "I could never not work. I'd go crazy. I don't want my life to be about Kool-Aid and paper towels."
What an idiot.
Then one day, I realized that something had happened to me. There wasn't really a defining moment, no earth-shattering epiphany. More like a gradual awakening. I realized that I wanted nothing more than to stay home making Kool-Aid for my girls.
It could have something to do with the fact that after having spent 5 months on bed rest while pregnant with my second child, the first thing I had to do was hire a nanny so I could jump on a plane to a week-long meeting in San Francisco.
Or, it could have been that while I was at this meeting, I was asked to go to Florida for 2 weeks to facilitate an acquisition. I wasn't really asked of course, more like assigned.
It just might have been seeing a picture of my oldest daughter on her first day of school. She was just about to go into her 1st grade classroom as Daddy had snapped the picture, and she looked so sad. And where was I? You guessed it...at a meeting.
Suddenly, all I could think about were my girls and what on earth was I thinking about leaving them in someone else's care?
So, I left my career behind; a bittersweet decision at the time, but I haven't looked back since. And in short order I realized that I had grossly underestimated the task before me.
There have been times when I wonder what has happened to all those professional skills.
Where is my patience when my 4-year-old has plugged up the toilet with her sister's rock collection? And where are my problem solving skills when I've foolishly volunteered to be the Cookie Manager for my daughter's girl scout troop and my little one keeps opening boxes of cookies and eating them? Where is my sense of diplomacy when someone makes even the least careless remark to one of my children?
It's a good thing I got all that experience in my other job before I got my promotion to stay-at-home parent.
So, to all the moms and dads who have dedicated themselves to caring for their precious children, consider this my deep bow of respect to you. You are the bravest, most important people in the world- doing the most challenging, important job in the world. It's the hardest job I've ever had.
--------------------------------
Sharon Davis is the Mom to two girls, the owner of 2Work-At-Home.Com, Work At Home Articles.net and the Editor of the site's monthly ezine, America's Home. In her spare time she reminisces about what it was like to have spare time.
To subscribe to her free ezine, Click Here.
This article may be reproduced providing it is published in it's entirety, including the author's bio. For a text version via autoresponder, send a blank email to thehardestjob@sendfree.com
professional maid services Park Ridge ..Emotional OverloadMany single parents say they deal with a variety... Read More
Saturday mornings. Cold cereal and Scooby Doo. How many parents... Read More
When growing up, my father frequently reminded me to "pay... Read More
Be sure to respect the intellectual changes that mark adolescence.... Read More
What you say and do about money has a profound... Read More
Once, as a Learning Support Teacher, I made my way... Read More
I thought I was the only one in the world... Read More
The wonderful adaptability of children in dealing with the challenges... Read More
Yesterday my husband Wade took the day off (that's one... Read More
"There is nothing new under the sun," states Ecclesiastes 1:9.... Read More
Studies have shown that:1 out of 4 children were sent... Read More
Gift shops are a kid magnet and often a trip... Read More
Throughout the year, many days of celebration are tucked capriciously... Read More
Although, not a well publicized statistic, childhood obesity has more... Read More
We are all so very happy to see that the... Read More
Every summer our daughter goes to summer camp. She looks... Read More
Back to school preparations are in full-swing. Soon, the first... Read More
It was a hot summer day in august and The... Read More
Not all parents subscribe to the notion of "tough love,"... Read More
Did you know that inconsistency on matters of discipline gives... Read More
Everyone knows that exercise is good for your health. Exercising... Read More
Information is gold when you are adopted. Every tiny piece... Read More
A growing body of scientific evidence shows that the way... Read More
The main thing we noticed since having a baby is... Read More
This article on parenting is by a practicing relationship counsellor/therapist,... Read More
cleaning lady near Lincolnshire ..When you talk about multiply your child's intelligence, you can't... Read More
How excited do kids get with the start of school... Read More
It can be hard being a parent with a teen... Read More
Childhood friendships are as special as they are a necessary... Read More
For every season, check, check, check, There is a chart,... Read More
Mommy (Daddy), Why do those people want to hurt everyone?Last... Read More
I recall somewhere in the recesses of my aging brain... Read More
Q. What's the right age to start giving a Bible... Read More
Detox To Conceive.. If you're having trouble conceiving... Read More
This article on parenting is by a practicing relationship counsellor/therapist,... Read More
Speaking as a Michael (a Hebrew name, meaning "Who is... Read More
We know that you want your little guy or gal... Read More
Anyone can become a parent; there are no tests or... Read More
"I don't know and I don't care."I've heard those words... Read More
Every parent wants their child to develop positive character traits.... Read More
If you are a member of a stepfamily, you know... Read More
It was a hot summer day in august and The... Read More
A study done by the Thomas B. Fordham Institute found... Read More
Most of the ADHD kids that are seen in a... Read More
The citizens of the early Roman Republic enjoyed an education... Read More
1. Create... Read More
Having a baby is one of the most exciting times... Read More
Learning responsibility is an ever widening and lifelong process.As thinking,... Read More
In his recent newsletter "Happy Kids", parenting expert Michael Grose... Read More
Imagine yourself lying flat on your back, totally strapped down... Read More
Parenting |