This can be a very complicated issue, so I don't mean to suggest that my comments here are the definitive thoughts on the subject. For a parent to even consider the issue, things have to be pretty problematic at school. So, even though these thoughts may be inadequate to cover your individual situation, I will share them with you anyway...
Consider these things:
1. How old is your child? If you child is 4 or 5 years old (especially with males) and is struggling in Kindergarten, he may simply be too young for structured learning. Not a big deal. Bring him home and work with him for another year. I usually recommend that parents start their sons in Kindergarten at age 6 anyway. And many kids with ADHD are just so neurologically immature that they are not going to really be "ready" for a classroom setting until they are 8 or 9 or 10. So consider homeschooling the young ADHD kids.
2. If the child is older, and the reason cited is "immaturity," then ask yourself these questions: When did the "immaturity" become apparent? Did it just begin this year? Are there emotional issues, or learning disabilities, that need to be addressed? Or is it really "immaturity?" How long has the teacher felt that this was a problem? What other options exist to deal with the situation? Would your child benefit from being with students who were a year younger than himself if the problem is immaturity?
3. If the reason given for retaining the child is lack of academic progress, then ask yourself these questions: Why didn't my child learn more? Were there problems in school behavior? Poor attention span? Poor work ethic? Poor work skills? Too much TV watching? Too little parental supervision? Too much parent supervision?
Would any of these problems be fixed by holding him back, or would you just repeat the same situation over again?
Are there other options, such as tutoring, home schooling, summer school, school interventions and accommodations?
Look at all of your options first. There are dozens of things that can be done besides holding a student back a grade in school. Just some simple thoughts. Hope they help. You can learn a lot more about attention deficit disorder in children and teens at the ADHD Information Library.
Douglas Cowan, Psy.D., is a family therapist who has been working with ADHD children and their families since 1986. He is the clinical director of the ADHD Information Library's family of seven web sites, including attention deficit disorder , helping over 350,000 parents and teachers learn more about ADHD each year. Dr. Cowan also serves on the Medical Advisory Board of VAXA International of Tampa, FL., is President of the Board of Directors for KAXL 88.3 FM in central California, and is President of NewIdeas.net Incorporated.
no-contract cleaning service Mundelein ..Mary, Mary, quite contrary, How does your garden grow? With... Read More
How often do you think of family life as an... Read More
So you want to be a mum? Every time you... Read More
This is the third and final article in a series... Read More
Information is gold when you are adopted. Every tiny piece... Read More
Though you can cover even very long distances by car... Read More
In the last few years, parents started getting more and... Read More
Discipline is a necessary part of parenting yet it makes... Read More
Moms, did you ever question your value as a role... Read More
Unfortunately each year many young children drown in swimming pools,... Read More
Q. How do I overcome the 16-year-old who does things... Read More
Best friends! It may seem impossible to believe, but today's... Read More
Grandparents, what better way to stay close to your grown... Read More
Blink. That's all we did, blink, and summer is ending... Read More
The snow was getting heavier with each lift of the... Read More
Is there anything wrong with lying, cheating, stealing, shop-lifting, taking... Read More
"Home Schooling ? Look Before You Leap"Are you considering home... Read More
Q. What is the best way to teach safety awareness... Read More
Graphology for Child development.:- Graphology is the science of understanding... Read More
Individualism is a common thing in today's modern society. Many... Read More
It was blisteringly hot last Saturday. As I took that... Read More
Just the other day my oldest son asked:"Daddy, am I... Read More
It has been a long day. Home from work, you... Read More
We adopted our first child when he was three months... Read More
Maintain CommunicationEven though teens need to separate from their parents... Read More
maid service near Glenview ..Very often, new parents rely on a parenting tip or... Read More
We're all familiar with the over-indulgent parent. But there's another... Read More
An address given by Rev. David B. Smith... Read More
Valentine day has always been a special day in my... Read More
When a parent is deployed with the military it can... Read More
My cousin boasts five names and I confess that when... Read More
Many working families choose a commercial or individual day care... Read More
Giving advice to a teenager is very easy; getting a... Read More
1. Encourage Questions.Don't answer every question, instead ask what do... Read More
"Do not think that love, in order to be genuine,... Read More
Some public schools try to turn children against their parents... Read More
Should a parent give a child a tangible reward when... Read More
The biggest trick some child predators' are using these days... Read More
What do you do when your child begins talking to... Read More
Did you know that over 75% of teens aged 16-17... Read More
If you really want to get your children to eat... Read More
While youth gangs are nothing new -- they've been traced... Read More
The school holidays are a great time for the kids,... Read More
Keith is now in the fourth grade and he dislikes... Read More
Do your children have a McChildhood? Do they experience the... Read More
School authorities often complain that classes are too large. They... Read More
Lets face it becoming a mum is a bit of... Read More
I really like all natural remedy for Attention Deficit Disorder... Read More
Are you a parent concerned about passing values on to... Read More
Our children are growing up bilingual in the French part... Read More
Parenting |