Question 1
"How do I get more time to play?"
Answer:
Schedule it in.
Why? Because if you don't schedule it you will generally let other things have a higher priority and put yourself and a life further down the list.
So just write 15 minutes a day, play time into your diary and don't change it for anything. If you have little kids it may be five x three-minute blocks for you. To get started, get your diary NOW and write in one fun thing you have been hanging out to do. Call a friend and tell them that you are going to do it, and DO IT today.
Question 2
"What happens when I feel guilty for not having enough time with the kids?"
Answer:
Get over it, and value yourself. Here's why: Guilt is more damaging to your health than any physical stress. So, when you feel guilty you change your body chemistry negatively and you can produce symptoms like headaches etc. If you give yourself a hard time for feeling guilty you add more stress. Relax and realise you are human we all get busy. Go for quality time if you cannot get the quantity you desire.
Question 3
"How do I stop myself getting frustrated with life?"
Answer:
Realise your expectations are just that, your expectations. Why? Because you only get frustrated when your expectations are not met. Get over that you cannot control everything or everyone. Relax and go with the flow. Ylang Ylang essential oil helps release anger that can come from frustration. It helps you relax and enjoy life your life. Vaporise it before you get cranky. I use it in combination with Jasmine, Lime and Sweet Orange in my Chill Out blend to help you go with the ups and downs of life.
Question 4
"Where do I get the discipline to say NO to everyone else and take time for me?"
Answer:
Realise discipline is easier to handle than regret. Here's why: You cannot turn back time, and regret sucks the life out of you. Saying no to stuff that is draining your energy for life, feeds you the energy to keep saying no. Consider living by the rule "If its hard to do, all the more reason to do it". If you play that game, you have self-discipline and can say NO easily. Taking those even small amounts of time to yourself will help make you a more fun mum to be around.
Question 5
"How do get to "pee" in peace?"
Answer:
I meet so many mums with little kids that don't even get time to go to the toilet in peace. Yes the world will end if the child is not in there with you. Why? Because to them, the world will end if they don't have your attention right now. There is no magical answer to this one, but you do deserve to "pee" in peace. Know that you are not alone and that every mum has been there on this one. The kids will move through it and you will survive.
Question 6
"What happens if I ask for what I want?"
Answer:
You will gain the respect of others for actually asking for help. Here's why: People admire people who are straight and honest with them. It helps validate how they are also feeling. We all basically want the same things in life, but most people won't show their "humanness" and ask for what they want. If you don't ask in the first place you have no possibility of getting it. So create the possibility and ask for what you want, some help.
Question 7
"How do I get a social life?"
Answer:
Get out and meet other grown ups. Why? Networking with other mums and adults in general is a sanity saver. We all need reassurance sometimes, supporting and encouraging others feeds you energy. As you support others, you also gain the support from others. Join a networking group of like-minded people to share ideas and your daily challenges with.
Question 8
"Why don't I feel deserving of rest time?"
Answer:
You have too much fun whining about it. Here's why: Humans find it easier to complain about stuff than to do something about it. If you respected yourself and took quality rest time, (I know it is not always quantity) you would have nothing to whine about. Wow you would be happy. Shock. So, channel your energy into being positive and get on living the happy life you deserve and already have. Think about it how life is here in Australia compared to some other countries in the world. Be grateful for the opportunities and wonderful things you already have.
Question 9
"How do get more energy for life?"
Answer:
Do something you enjoy, or if you don't enjoy it, change your perception to the task. Why? You always naturally have the energy for the things you love doing. So just change your perception to what you are doing. If you tell yourself you are energised and life is fun. That is what it will be. Change your perception to what is happening, tell yourself you have all the energy you need and you love life.
Question 10
"What happens if I don't plan for play?"
Answer:
You won't get it. Here's why: It's easier to do something for someone else than for yourself. So schedule it to the tiniest detail like you would a task at work, and focus on the joy that playtime will bring. Planning to this amount of detail feeds you energy and excites you into doing it more often. Write tomorrow's playtime in your diary right now. I know your first through is that I am too busy, but make a start even if it is five minutes of "play time". Remember go for quality.
Question 11
"How do I get balanced?"
Answer:
Allow yourself to be human. We all have room for improvement. Why? Because no one person or thing is ever perfect. You will drive yourself mad trying to be perfect. Being balanced is noticing if you are off track and taking action to rectify it. For instance if you have extra coffee today the world will not end, simply have two extra waters to balance it out.
Question 12
"What do I do if I'm in overwhelm?"
Answer:
Stop and breathe. Here's why: Breathing keeps you alive. It really does. If you don't breathe when overwhelmed, you will never think straight to get yourself out of it. So, stop, breathe, see what is really happening compared to what you think is happening and deal with it, NOW. Breathing helps you move through the stress and any fear associated with it.
Question 13
"How do feel romantic when I am so busy?"
Answer:
Plan ahead and schedule in some playtime with your partner. Why? When you are busy one of the last things to happen will be playtime with the one you love. Don't wait hoping that you will be spontaneous, plan for the romance. Think about it right now, what simple act could you plan for tonight. Make it easy and fun, you don't always need the whole tenpage essay to enjoy some romance. Use some fun essential oils like Orange and May Change or my Play More Blend to help set the scene.
Question 14
"What happens when I don't eat properly or I skip meals?"
Answer:
You increase your chance of losing your life. Here's why: Food is the fuel that keeps you alive. It's that simple, and the first thing that goes hungry is your brain. How can you think straight if your brain is not nourished? See food as a fuel and behave in your eating six days a week and have one FREE DAY a week to let loose.
Conclusion
If you don't "Get a Life" you could lose your life. The more you know how to do the basics and look after your body, the more you body will look after you.
Life Balancing expert Jennifer Jefferies is one of Australia's best-known authors and speakers. Jennifer's simple, practical and proven 7 Steps to Sanity can help bring balance to anyone who wants to have it all without sacrificing their health, sanity or sense of humour along the way. Jennifer is a qualified health practitioner, who speaks to corporations throughout Australia, New Zealand and Southeast Asia, sharing practical real-life strategies that help people to improve their health, wellbeing and productivity by finding balance in their lives.
Jennifer has also written numerous books and e-books and life balancing products. You can contact Jennifer at:
Jennifer Jefferies International Pty Ltd
Po Box 4298,
Elanora, QLD 4221 Australia
Phone: +61 7 55986035
http://www.jenniferjefferies.com
Economist John Kenneth Galbraith has said that more people die... Read More
Recently I took my two children to a popular new... Read More
If you spend any time in the parenting section of... Read More
As a mother of two sets of fraternal boy/girl twins,... Read More
Do you have a consistent problem with your child lying... Read More
Chiladult? Whatever you call them, teenagers are a changin' and... Read More
As our children grow, they will be going to schools... Read More
Software for parental control is a useful tool, if applied... Read More
Even if your teenagers do not use drugs, you still... Read More
For the most positive daycare experience for your child, partner... Read More
The word no is probably the most overused word in... Read More
Despite the theory that people have kids because they want... Read More
A number of scientific studies have shown the way a... Read More
Graphology for Child development.:- Graphology is the science of understanding... Read More
'How can I start getting my children to help out... Read More
Isn't the technology of today is amazing?! Between the speed... Read More
As a parent, are you at your wits end? Does... Read More
How do we deal with our seriously distressed children and... Read More
1 - Forgive even if you will never be able... Read More
My kids ask me all the time to take them... Read More
Diagnosing children and teens with ADHD can be a challenge.... Read More
Teens can freely access the Internet from computers at school,... Read More
There is no doubt that mothers play an all-important leading... Read More
'Picky Eater' is a label coined to describe the phenomenon... Read More
Baby names are as diverse as the people to whom... Read More
Breese limo service at o'hare ..This past holiday season Canadians spent over $45 billion-with parents... Read More
My daughters and I went to the beach several weeks... Read More
How would you like to have a closer relationship with... Read More
In the beginning, having children was just a byproduct of... Read More
More and more kids these days are diagnosed ADD, ADHD,... Read More
Past experience with federal education programs predicts that the No... Read More
I am a dad. I have been now for over... Read More
Vacations and trips are great family events, but how do... Read More
Ever blown your top to your children, only to regret... Read More
All too often, children with learning disabilities are seen through... Read More
Nurture and TeachThe single most important thing caregivers can do... Read More
It's sometimes difficult to find ways to be involved with... Read More
Being in a competitive world, the lowest qualification to secure... Read More
Sex has a lot to answer for ? babies usually... Read More
Do you live with an ADD / ADHD child? If... Read More
I had my first two children on either side of... Read More
Being a single mother is no easy task. I know.... Read More
Did you know that you are the most important person... Read More
When kids try new things, sometimes it's a 'fit' and... Read More
Although many parents become frustrated as they try to maintain... Read More
Love, love, love. It makes the world go round. It... Read More
Former students would probably attest to the fact that few... Read More
When growing up, my father frequently reminded me to "pay... Read More
Have you heard the song; "I Hope You Dance"? It... Read More
1. They can make mistakes under your guidance2. They will... Read More
Parenting |