Q. Things have been relatively calm and OK with our 16-year-old son so far. Now all of a sudden, there is a huge battle about curfew. He wants to stay out later and later, and we don't think he is ready. How do we set appropriate curfew in our house?
A. Here are a few basic principles on which you and your teen can build:
*Curfew is for the convenience of the parents, not the teens. Parents want to know what time their teens will be home so the parents can sleep when they need to. Be careful not to get this principle turned around the wrong way.
*There should be a later curfew on the weekend than on weeknights.
*One or more evenings should be family nights when everyone is home.
*Sunday nights are not weekend nights, they are school nights.
A Curfew Program You Both Can Handle
Here's how to set up a curfew program that you can live with.
Pick a beginning curfew. Let's say 11 p.m., for example.
Of course, your son will want it to be later. Tell him there is a way to get there and you are going to provide him with a map.
If he honors the 11 p.m. curfew for four months, then he will have earned an additional 15 minutes added to his curfew.
If at any time during the four-month period he comes in late, then the earning period starts all over again the next day.
Choose times and time periods that fit for your family and situation.
The nice thing about this curfew system is that it puts the parents clearly in charge, gives the teen something to work toward, and provides both the parents and the teen clear markers of progress.
Leading parenting expert Jeff Herring is a teen and family therapist, parenting coach, speaker and syndicated parenting and relationship columnist. Jeff invites you to visit parentingyourteenager.com for 100's of tips and tools for parenting through the teenage years. You can also subscribe to his f'ree weekly internet newsletter "ParenitngYourTeenager."
bathroom cleaning service Northbrook ..It can be said that any man who procreates is... Read More
I was in the life insurance sales industry for over... Read More
"Do not think that love, in order to be genuine,... Read More
There are some grounds to assume that a cognitive dissonance... Read More
Ask parents what their biggest school year challenge is, and... Read More
If You're Having Twins..is it double the headache, or double... Read More
Something eerily familiar happened in KwaZulu-Natal's Hluhluwe-Umfolozi Park in Africa... Read More
If you visit search engines you can find several resources... Read More
Did you know that inconsistency on matters of discipline gives... Read More
O.K. So now you have taken the step of having... Read More
I have three children, ages 19 and 16 (yes, the... Read More
This past holiday season Canadians spent over $45 billion-with parents... Read More
What's hard for teenagersHaving people who don't understand you trying... Read More
Dear friends here we will charge up our mind with... Read More
Optimists do better academically, socially and enjoy better health than... Read More
Have you ever sat and watch a child struggle with... Read More
For the first year or two of life outside the... Read More
When kids try new things, sometimes it's a 'fit' and... Read More
Travel is a common theme in my life -- probably... Read More
Teri was 5. As younger siblings do, she looked up... Read More
Q. What is the best way to teach safety awareness... Read More
What you say and do about money has a profound... Read More
What is the mystery of motherhood? I know that when... Read More
What would it be like to have a clone? What... Read More
School authorities continually claim that they want more parent cooperation... Read More
insured cleaning company Wilmette ..I really like all natural remedy for Attention Deficit Disorder... Read More
Libraries offer more than books. They are places of learning... Read More
Early childhood educators have called play "children's work". Many parents... Read More
Being in a competitive world, the lowest qualification to secure... Read More
Perhaps I could make a lot of money by founding... Read More
It's a familiar scene: Kids screaming at each other, complaining... Read More
Here is an easy, inexpensive and fun kid experiment for... Read More
My neighbours' kid impressed me the other day.I was busy... Read More
Single parents are not often thought of as good parents.I... Read More
For any parent, learning that a convicted sex offender lives... Read More
Home-schooling provides children with a superior education. Parents can quickly... Read More
When you talk about multiply your child's intelligence, you can't... Read More
It has been a long day. Home from work, you... Read More
In his recent newsletter "Happy Kids", parenting expert Michael Grose... Read More
I was reading "A Modern Infant Armada", a humor column... Read More
1 - Forgive even if you will never be able... Read More
This article on parenting is by a practicing relationship counsellor/therapist,... Read More
Bedtime and children's sleep habits can cause nightmares - for... Read More
Young people generally want to fit in to their various... Read More
As Mother's Day approaches I would like to give a... Read More
My son is 6 yrs old. He came home the... Read More
Q. With another school year starting, we are not sure... Read More
Every school year parents and students dutifully trudge through the... Read More
Diapers..Changing a dirty diaper is not the best part of... Read More
Q: My husband and I are at a loss as... Read More
Parenting |