Q. Our 17-year-old son wants us to let his girlfriend spend the night at our house in his room. He has two beds since his older brother left for college. He says nothing will happen and lots of his friends' parents allow this. Should we try it and see how it works?
A. You're kidding, right?
Let me ask that in a slightly different way:
You are kidding, right?
Unfortunately, I know you're not because you are not the first parent to ask me this.
I must ask you:
Are you ready to be grandparents? Are you ready to help raise, in your home, your new grandchild? Are you prepared to be charged with contributing to the delinquency of a minor and/or sued?
The answer is an emphatic NO! I don't care what promises are made to you, it's a horrible idea and invites disaster.
Teens Not Emotionally Ready for Sex
In addition to all the moral issues, teenagers are simply not emotionally prepared for sex. While their bodies and hormones are many times well prepared, their emotions are not.
And that goes for boys as well as girls.
It's time for a healthy dose of Vitamin NO in answer to your son's question.
And by the way, anytime you hear "everyone else's parents are letting them do it," watch out.
More than likely it's not true.
Leading parenting expert Jeff Herring is a teen and family therapist, parenting coach, speaker and syndicated parenting and relationship columnist. Jeff invites you to visit parentingyourteenager.com for 100's of tips and tools for parenting through the teenage years. You can also subscribe to his f'ree weekly internet newsletter "ParenitngYourTeenager."
tidy up service Glenview ..You do what you can to keep your little ones... Read More
Valentine day has always been a special day in my... Read More
Many parents would like to homeschool their children but are... Read More
If you had to spend 4 or 5 hours in... Read More
Remember when cash was a tangible commodity in all of... Read More
Boredom, limited space and overflowing energy are a source of... Read More
Many people still think that the game of chess is... Read More
Child care costs are are one of the most expensive... Read More
The First Reason: For one thing, child development experts are... Read More
Coping with a child's bad behavior, perhaps more than any... Read More
My wife and I have been working on a video... Read More
Vinegar or honey, what do kids really want? "Toys, candy,... Read More
Advocate: you've probably heard the term before. But what does... Read More
Salon visits can be scary experiences for small children: They... Read More
Parents looking for a quick fix usually choose troubled teen... Read More
As a parent, you probably know that the birthday party... Read More
The last decade has seen heightened interest in and awareness... Read More
Isn't the technology of today is amazing?! Between the speed... Read More
The big yellow school bus is coming down my road... Read More
Grandparents, what better way to stay close to your grown... Read More
Choosing a good car seat for your child's protection is... Read More
Vacations and trips are great family events, but how do... Read More
Children bombard parents with many challenging behaviours. We are delighted... Read More
There is a front line and a back end to... Read More
We were sitting in the family room. My kids had... Read More
maid service near Winnetka ..This may come as a surprise.But despite all the advances... Read More
Thank you to all of our professional educators who dedicate... Read More
'Whose room is it anyway?'If you have a teenager, you're... Read More
As parents, we strive to address all of the questions... Read More
Despite the theory that people have kids because they want... Read More
There is a new stage of development for parents to... Read More
Children explore the world around them and learn through pretend... Read More
People always ask my wife and I: "How did you... Read More
Children do what feels good to them and follow their... Read More
Home schooling. What is it? What does it mean to... Read More
As the father of a toddler, I am an expert... Read More
With the beginning of the new school year coming VERY... Read More
"Will my doubts and fears affect my child?" This father... Read More
Non-compliance is the family therapist's big word for your child... Read More
Research has shown that the present generation of children worldwide... Read More
Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
The girl's jaw dropped in horror as the police officer... Read More
Demanding children ? children who have entitlement issues ? seem... Read More
I'll never forget my first lesson in a glider.I'd been... Read More
I was reading "A Modern Infant Armada", a humor column... Read More
No matter what you say or do, your kids will... Read More
Until about the age of six, children do not generally... Read More
Today the little red school house is not what it... Read More
In a single dose of children's television, I was bombarded... Read More
Would you like your child to be the best that... Read More
Parenting |