As a parent there are lots of things that you can do to help your child with ADHD succeed in school, with friends, and in life. Here are some tips for you that just may help you in your ongoing efforts to help your child. Since we know that ultimately it is the parent's responsibility to make sure that the special needs of his/her ADHD child are met, and not the teacher's responsibility, or the school's, or the President's, we need to do what it takes daily to raise our kids. But let's make sure not to let it become an emotional crisis for us. After the initial awareness of the existence of a problem, there need not be an overwhelming feeling of helpless again! Here are some things that we can do for our kids:
1. Keep a file on hand, and a start a daily journal from the moment you first suspect or are told that there is a problem. Document what you see in your child at home, document your observations of your child at school, and document the observations of family members, neighbors, teachers, or anyone that has frequent contact with your child.
2. Keep a 3 ring binder in which to file copies of all classroom ratings by the teacher, observations by the teacher, all assessments from therapists, counselors, psychologists, or physicians. Write your own notes after each doctor visit and keep them forever. This can all be very helpful in the future. Keep lists of all medications prescribed, and note how well they worked, or what side-effects they had. Record and keep everything having to do with your child's treatment from today until your child turns 20 years old. Then give him/her the book for his future records.
3. Actively seek out a pediatrician or other doctor who is well versed in ADHD and is gifted in treating the condition. Make sure that he is willing to discuss your concerns without placing on you a false sense of guilt. Take my word for it, there are many doctors who are badly misinformed about ADHD out there. But there are also very good doctors. Take the time to find a good one! We discuss more on exactly how to do this at the ADHD Information Library.
4. Seek, join, and become active in support groups such as CHADD, CANHC, or others. These groups will help you to stay informed in changes in laws affecting ADHD in school and in the workplace. They will also offer you resources so that you can become a better educated advocate for your child. You will also make some great friends and contacts in these support groups.
5. Always ask questions. Ask everyone that you talk to, from therapists to physicians to educators, to clarify their information. Never let some professional try to intimidate you with big words. Every profession has its own jargon. Do not just let professionals throw jargon around in conversations. Make them explain everything in plain language. This will help you to learn, and as an added bonus, it will let you know whether the professional that you are talking to actually knows his stuff or is just parroting information.
6. Get to really know and understand your child's needs at a deeper level. Keep in mind the differences between real "needs" and things that you "want." Real "needs" would include resources that your child must have in order to function at acceptable levels. Have documentation to back up what you think is a need. Be able to express this information to his school, doctor, etc.
7. Ask for, and be willing to pay for, written reports. It takes time for professionals to write up these reports, and you will have to pay for their time. Keep them in your child's file. These reports should be shared openly with those from whom you seek help for this child. Keep originals and give them copies. Ask for copies of your child's records and keep them in the files. Especially test results and reports.
8. Be your child's advocate in the schools, with his teachers, in your community. This does not mean that your job is to make excuses for inappropriate or criminal behaviors. Please don't become that kind of parent. But it does mean that you are willing to take the time to assess the situation at school and come up with reasonable plans that might be implimented to help your child. We have a great resource for parents and teachers at http://www.addinschool.com with over 500 classroom interventions to consider. Some of them might be very helpful for your child, and your child's teachers.
Douglas Cowan, Psy.D., is a family therapist who has been working with ADHD children and their families since 1986. He is the clinical director of the ADHD Information Library's family of seven web sites, including http://www.addinschool.com, helping over 350,000 parents and teachers learn more about ADHD each year. Dr. Cowan also serves on the Medical Advisory Board of VAXA International of Tampa, FL., is President of the Board of Directors for KAXL 88.3 FM in central California, and is President of NewIdeas.net Incorporated.
limo Midway Round Lake .. Lockport Chicago limo O’HareThe snow was getting heavier with each lift of the... Read More
The biggest complaint you hear from parents about their children... Read More
Thank you for all that you do in the classroom!... Read More
Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
Having a high level of emotional intelligence in your children... Read More
Q. We are getting to the stage with our kids... Read More
When you think about it, probably the one thing that... Read More
Is your babysitter watching the kids and your k9 family... Read More
One of the most prevalent problems of the computer age... Read More
Many children who suffer from the psychological effects of child... Read More
The last decade has seen heightened interest in and awareness... Read More
Nothing touches the heartstrings of a parent or teacher more... Read More
'I felt great until I walked into the classroom -... Read More
Parental Alienation Syndrome was probably first identified and codified by... Read More
Lets face it becoming a mum is a bit of... Read More
Before going further into choosing computers for children, I believe... Read More
I hear from many parents that their child is stressed... Read More
According to the American Sleep Association 70% of all babies... Read More
Fizzy sherbet in a paper bag with a strawberry lollipop... Read More
Why Is Spending Time with Your Child So Important?For children... Read More
Our children are our most important legacy to the world.... Read More
Sitterphobe "I never have a second to myself," this mother... Read More
Ok. So you're a dad to be. If you're like... Read More
Suppose that you rearrange your life to homeschool your child... Read More
"I wipe my baby's chin with my college diploma and... Read More
bmw rental chicago Barrington Hills ..Just two days ago, another 15-year old child was added... Read More
At the ADHD Information Library we are big believers that... Read More
Ah, there is nothing like being an expectant mom. Along... Read More
For any of you Moms out there that are doing... Read More
"Life consists not in holding good cards but in playing... Read More
I'll never forget my first lesson in a glider.I'd been... Read More
The snow was getting heavier with each lift of the... Read More
Why are more people, especially parents not outraged?I call it... Read More
Who Can Register A Birth? The child's mother... Read More
It's among the top criticism wives have of their husbands:... Read More
It's that time of year when mom and dad look... Read More
I wanted to share with you one of the most... Read More
Here's some of the bad news about sedentary lifestyles:? Forty... Read More
KIDS AND THE NEWSMore than ever, children witness innumerable, sometimes... Read More
The legend and myth of the Tooth Fairy is a... Read More
(Excerpted from Jim Rohn's 2004 Weekend Leadership Event)You have to... Read More
Not so long ago a dad-to-be would pace up and... Read More
I know this Mom. She homeschools her 5 children, plus... Read More
Chaim Ginott was a schoolteacher whose ideas and observations helped... Read More
Many parents struggle to know which foods are healthy for... Read More
A great many parents are concerned that the electronic games... Read More
One of the questions I ask in parenting presentations is... Read More
Because most teens have not had the experience of getting... Read More
As the kids go back to school, you can go... Read More
Paula's last child had just gone off to college and... Read More
Parenting |