Learning responsibility is an ever widening and lifelong process.
As thinking, acting human beings we have the ability to choose our response to events, people and circumstances. We do not become responsible when we mature; we mature when we become responsible.
Psychologists teach that the only reasons people are ever motivated or moved to action is to gain a reward or avoid a penalty. As you teach this principal to the children in your charge be sure to explain what they will gain or lose by the choices they make.
ME: I am in charge of those things that directly affect me as a person.
Examples are:
Grooming, nutrition, exercise, education, choosing friends, a mate or a career. My choices might irritate or disappoint others but the consequences will ultimately hurt only me.
YOU: My actions in this circle affect those I love and care about. I want you to like and approve of me, so I am motivated to do what will please you. I have a responsibility to those who work or live with me to do the things I say I will, accept blame when I am wrong, make restitution, be co-operative, care for my possessions and safeguard other people's resources. Consequences have a ripple effect on those around me and will affect my daily life.
US: The community within 10 miles of wherever I am standing determines us. Some people and organizations I know, some I don't know yet, but they are a part of my extended neighborhood. This is the place to practice random acts of kindness, courtesy and service. We are each the representative of the groups we belong to; family, teenagers, school, soccer team etc. The whole may be judged and influenced by our individual actions and role model. The reward may come later in life in the form of recommendations, job offers, networking and a stronger more vibrant community.
The Universe: I have a responsibility to the universal family of humankind to make the world a better place. I need to be a part of the solution of preserving the earth, eliminating bigotry, giving service, and treating others, as I would like to be treated. The Universe may never give me a tangible reward, but I will gain an inner reward of doing right and making good choices for the higher good of all. I recognize that I have a responsibility to not only have positive actions, but thoughts, words and intentions towards others and to act with dignity, respect and love. As parents and leaders we need to give children the opportunity to be responsible as early as possible. Teach the concept of a pause button in order to stop, think and choose before acting. Whenever they are allowed to have a voice and a choice, they will grow up knowing that they have the power to guide the outcome of their life and contribute to the well being of the group.
This handout? 2003 has been prepared by Judy H. Wright, Missoula, MT parent educator and author. You may have permission to make copies for other parents and teachers but the entire article, including the signature line, must be included. A complete list of parenting books, aids, workshops and a FREE ezine is available at www.artichokepress.com. To contact us, please write judywright@artichokepress.com or call 406-549-9813.
maide service in Park Ridge ..It is so important to create an environment that promotes... Read More
Assuming there are no serious motor problems present, what can... Read More
I'm sure many of you have heard that old Hallmark... Read More
"The best blush to use is laughter: It put roses... Read More
Everyone loves penguins. And now, everyone has a chance to... Read More
Until the moment I became a mother, I couldn't quite... Read More
The biggest trick some child predators' are using these days... Read More
Now I know that is not how the song goes,... Read More
Q. Things have been relatively calm and OK with our... Read More
There is a new stage of development for parents to... Read More
The big yellow school bus is coming down my road... Read More
Many of us have grown up drinking caffeinated diet sodas... Read More
"Just turn the lights off and go to sleep"Do you... Read More
Teachers know that children thrive in an environment with routines,... Read More
The girl's jaw dropped in horror as the police officer... Read More
Sitterphobe "I never have a second to myself," this mother... Read More
Ok. So you're a dad to be. If you're like... Read More
If your child is to derive the benefits of physical... Read More
You no longer have to use Ritalin or other stimulants... Read More
How often do you think of family life as an... Read More
You are in the final round of your favorite game... Read More
Everyone needs friends, and, as parents, you and I both... Read More
Arabella Greatorex, owner of The Natural Nursery, reports on the... Read More
The internet is a dangerous place for your children. Don't... Read More
Is there a difference between lazy and unmotivated? Why do... Read More
after renovation cleaning Highland Park ..Memorizing math facts is a necessary part of elementary school.... Read More
You may remember The Red Couch Project, a book by... Read More
I'll never forget my first lesson in a glider.I'd been... Read More
Imagine you were the principal of the school that your... Read More
Here in Kansas, where we live, the leaves are turning... Read More
I could nearly fund my children's future education if I... Read More
You may think once your child has gone off to... Read More
Maryann is so focused she's blind. She's slipped over the... Read More
It's no surprise that the self-image and self-esteem of overweight... Read More
I thought I was the only one in the world... Read More
Whenever parents discuss how to deal with bed wetting, the... Read More
Dan Rather made a significant and tactical error and got... Read More
"My son won't go to bed at night without a... Read More
Having a babysitter take care of your kids is sometimes... Read More
Is there anything wrong with lying, cheating, stealing, shop-lifting, taking... Read More
The key to a successful car wash fundraiser event is... Read More
Best friends! It may seem impossible to believe, but today's... Read More
Levels of SafetyBy teaching our children there are different levels... Read More
"Just turn the lights off and go to sleep"Do you... Read More
Here is a top secret to make your child genius... Read More
Being consistent when children are less than perfect can make... Read More
For any of you Moms out there that are doing... Read More
More and more kids these days are diagnosed ADD, ADHD,... Read More
Boredom, limited space and overflowing energy are a source of... Read More
Many children enjoy TV, and they can learn from it.... Read More
Parenting |