Ask any teacher or adolescent counselor what the most disturbing trend they are seeing in teens today is, and they are likely to tell you it's the growing number of "cutters".
By cutters, they mean people who hurt themselves or "self-injure" a term that is more encompassing of the many types of behaviors that are actually involved. Whatever the form of self-injury, cutting, burning, biting or any of many other similar behaviors, teens hurting themselves in an attempt to deal with emotional pain is on the rise.
Today it is thought that 1% of youth in America are engaging in self-harming behavior. And, while both males and females are self-harming, girls are four times more likely to self-harm than boys. This behavior, which has been around forever, but was noted only rarely in the past, is running through peer-groups like a infectious disease; striking fear into the hearts of many parents. Parents often do not know what to make the behavior in their children
What causes a person to engage in self-harm is as varied as the number of people hurting themselves. One cutter that may express the sentiments of many put it this way," I cannot adequately describe in words my emotional state prior to a cutting. The feelings are overwhelming--usually severe feelings of rejection, self-hatred or anger. Cutting presents a way to make the pain show (and be felt) on the *outside* where I can deal with it." Frequently, as this person points out, self-harm is a coping strategy for dealing with emotional pain that has become intolerable.
Self-harm is not necessarily an attempt at suicide. Though one study found that half of students who engage in the behavior express thoughts of suicide, many professionals see the behavior as a maladaptive coping skill used to keep the person alive. Some would say that the longer the person engages in self-harming acts the less likely that they are attempts at suicide. Self-injury is nonetheless a dangerous behavior and one that can lead to unintentional death.
Identifying the person who is harming them self, may not always be easy. Frequently, the person cuts on areas that cannot be easily seen by others. They may wear long sleeve shirts and pants to cover up the scars. Some characteristics of people who are at risk for cutting include:
Low self-esteem extreme sensitivity to rejection high levels of anger suppress emotions impulsive depressed suffer chronic anxiety have been abused
Many people who engage in self-harming do get better. There are a handful of inpatient programs around the country and an increasing number of therapists and programs treating self-harm on an outpatient basis. If your child is hurting her or himself, seek help.
? 2005, David Westbrook
David Westbrook is a freelance writer and the host of http://www.troubledteenresources.net/ a resource guide for parents.
professional maid services Deerfield ..Q. My daughter is a junior in high school and... Read More
How would you like to have more time? Of course... Read More
I don't know how people raise daughters because I have... Read More
Q. My daughter has gotten very good at manipulating us,... Read More
One of my first memories of childhood is that of... Read More
(Excerpted from Jim Rohn's 2004 Weekend Leadership Event)You have to... Read More
Our children are our most important legacy to the world.... Read More
One of the most prevalent myths of our modern culture... Read More
It's that time again! Parent-teacher conferences are coming. Are you... Read More
What Children Look for in a Friend?Is this child fun... Read More
Ask parents what their biggest school year challenge is, and... Read More
Ever blown your top to your children, only to regret... Read More
In seminars I am often asked about pocket-money and whether... Read More
Nothing touches the heartstrings of a parent more than the... Read More
Although, not a well publicized statistic, childhood obesity has more... Read More
"I took care of Callie," my three-year-old announced.Callie had been... Read More
There's a phrase that's become popular over the past few... Read More
Love, love, love. It makes the world go round. It... Read More
Moms, did you ever question your value as a role... Read More
O.K. So now you have taken the step of having... Read More
When kids try new things, sometimes it's a 'fit' and... Read More
Most of us recognize the continuing escalation of violence around... Read More
We all want to comfort our children after they suffer... Read More
I thought I was the only one in the world... Read More
Certainly we all want our children to excel. But it... Read More
quick home cleaning Lake Forest ..Criticism is punitiveOur children judge themselves on the opinions we... Read More
Handing Down Malignancy.Children may begin bright and eager to face... Read More
A friend phoned her neighbor, complaining about the wafts of... Read More
Some public schools try to turn children against their parents... Read More
Optimists do better academically, socially and enjoy better health than... Read More
We've got spirit, yes we do! We've got spirit how... Read More
Time management is an organisational concept traditionally associated with adults... Read More
There are two methods for teaching children to read; whole... Read More
According to the American Sleep Association 70% of all babies... Read More
What's in a name? Er?well, everything, really! Of course your... Read More
Q. How do I overcome the 16-year-old who does things... Read More
So you have just returned home from your third meeting... Read More
Do you remember how you first learned the alphabet? I... Read More
As mothers, we play so many different roles and most... Read More
I have always found the notion of toilet training a... Read More
As parents and teachers, sometimes we want to praise, at... Read More
Q. When you consult with a family with teens, what... Read More
(Isaiah 11:6 KJV) The wolf also shall dwell with the... Read More
1. The Law of the BeastAs parents we need to... Read More
Why are more people, especially parents not outraged?I call it... Read More
In an actual war, to be attacked means to have... Read More
I was changing Ford's diaper the other day when he... Read More
Before going further into choosing computers for children, I believe... Read More
My son is 6 yrs old. He came home the... Read More
What do you do when your child begins talking to... Read More
Parenting |