Everyone needs friends, and, as parents, you and I both know we're responsible for our children's social lives as well as our own. As homeschoolers, we also know that kids don't need public school pressure in order to find friends . . . so I'm not going to waste your time with hundreds of statistics to support homeschoolers and socialization. Instead let's explore the top two ways to find life long friends for our children . . . and ourselves!
Support & Fun All Rolled into One!
The best way to find friends for your family is to research the homeschool groups in your area. Find the one that fits your lifestyle, religious beliefs, and educational views the best and join it! Here are some great sites online that will help you find groups in your area:
After finding the group that's right for you, don't get overwhelmed with all of the activities: remember... homeschool group activities are opportunities, not obligations! A lot of groups are very organized and offer a lot of activities, but you shouldn't feel like it's an all or nothing kind of thing. Choose your activity and only do what you and your kids want to.
Too Much of a Good Thing? Try a Mini-Support Group!
On the other hand, a lot of the groups are very unorganized, and as soon as they find a smart and capable person who looks like they're willing to take control, they'll throw all the organization onto them. Don't let this be you! If your new homeschool group is unorganized, just try to get a list of names of homeschoolers in your area as well as the ages of their children. I would start with one family at a time (whose kids are close in age to my own) and begin calling them; this way, you can put together your own mini-support group! Smaller groups are better for getting to know each other, anyway. Once you've found a family, give them a call:
"Hi! I'm homeschooling my children in the same neighborhood as you. The information I got from the area homeschool group tells me that your two children are the same age as mine. Honestly, my kids and I are just looking for some homeschool friends in the area. I was wondering if there is some time this week that we could meet at the park and have a picnic. You pick the day and I'll bring my famous fruit salad!"
This approach works like a charm - and if the first family you call is uninterested, which is unlikely, call the next. Fear of rejection is not something you should worry about. Remember: you are now solely responsible for your younger children's interaction with new people - so take charge and make the first move! If not for yourself, then do it for them.
When you get together with your new play group, here are some great educational field trip ideas:
Fire station, library, park, beach, zoo, airport, art/history museum, children's museum, governor's office, police station, farm, factory, sporting events, local industry (bottling factory, wood mill, steel mill, coffee farm), parent's work place, seniors' homes, and any kind of outdoor activity (hiking, skiing, etc). The best thing to do is find out what you have in your area and use the resources at hand. You'll be surprised at what's out there!
Soccer & Brownies anyone?
The next best place to find friends is through extra curricular activities. See what's available in your city and talk with your kids. Friends come naturally when your kids are involved in activities with children their own age. Calling the YMCA for ideas is a great place to start. Here are some of our favorites:
Boy scouts, Girls scouts, Brownies, Soccer, Softball, Gymnastics, Martial Arts, Swimming, Summer Camps, Youth Groups, College Classes for homeschoolers, Writing Clubs, 4-H, Choir, Spelling and Geography Bees, Game Days, Volunteering, Drama Clubs, Church Groups, Craft Classes, Book Clubs, Bowling Clubs, Skating, Teen Clubs, and just about anywhere else you can think of!
Stay-At-Home TIPS:
Try to get done with school work at the same time as the local schools. Then your children can play with the neighborhood kids just like everyone else.
If you have other kids in the family close in age, invite them over. My son is best friends with his cousin. We live close by and they are always calling or coming over. My son doesn't have a lot of friends, but he does have his "best friend." So life is good!
Don't forget about yourself! We're so engrossed with our kids that we forget about ourselves. Talk to your homeschool group or fellow soccer moms and plan a "girl's night out" and go to dinner or just get together at someone's house to talk, eat, and have a good time. No Kids Allowed! Schedule your "play time" just like you would for your kids and have fun doing it!
New friendships aren't hard to find as long as you stay open to new people. We just need to get out of the house (past the mailbox) and have adventures. These fun outings will encourage all of our families to naturally meet friends that we all need! Thanks for listening, and I hope some of these ideas will help you and your kids make and keep life-long friends.
Happy Homeschooling!
Kristi Hagen is a homeschooling parent and author of "A Parent's Guide to Homeschool". She's also one of the editors of HomeschoolViews.com, which publishes an informative monthly homeschool central.
efficient cleaning crew Northbrook ..It used to strike me as odd - but really,... Read More
For every season, check, check, check, There is a chart,... Read More
As a parent is seems that the majority of your... Read More
Detox To Conceive.. If you're having trouble conceiving... Read More
It is human nature to feel competitive and envious toward... Read More
My son recently had his third birthday party and it... Read More
On one of her quarterly visits to see her grandson,... Read More
We are all familiar with the stories that most students... Read More
What Children Look for in a Friend?Is this child fun... Read More
Is your weekly shopping trip with the kids an absolute... Read More
The big yellow school bus is coming down my road... Read More
When is a person brilliant? When does a person show... Read More
A friend phoned her neighbor, complaining about the wafts of... Read More
'And all because of a damned cat! It's only a... Read More
As with everything, names go through cycles of change with... Read More
What parents of a teen haven't wondered where their sweet... Read More
When it's time to put your child into a daycare... Read More
The brightly colored plastic mobile dangles lazily overhead in the... Read More
How to Get Your Child to Love Reading was conceived... Read More
We all wish that our children should not smoke or... Read More
At age seven months in the womb, humans begin language... Read More
How in the world do you get your child to... Read More
Dear Camille,As I thumb through the photographs that I carry... Read More
So you're going to become a father. Now is not... Read More
Here in Kansas, where we live, the leaves are turning... Read More
cleaning lady near Wilmette ..Recently, a parent came to me, conflicted over whether to... Read More
Strattera came out around January of 2003, and is becoming... Read More
Child care costs are are one of the most expensive... Read More
Giving advice to a teenager is very easy; getting a... Read More
A parent writes in, ``We are having a hard time... Read More
Ah, there is nothing like being an expectant mom. Along... Read More
There is a new stage of development for parents to... Read More
On a bright Sunday morning, a couple of weeks ago,... Read More
What is Happening in the brain of children, teens, and... Read More
1 "Law of Belonging": The greatest need of teenagers (after... Read More
It is so important to create an environment that promotes... Read More
Are you a frustrated parent who sometimes finds it is... Read More
Do your children have a McChildhood? Do they experience the... Read More
Do you want to create a deeper, more loving relationship... Read More
Everyone in a private practice setting who works with children... Read More
Your child's teacher says that you need to find out... Read More
Yesterday my husband Wade took the day off (that's one... Read More
Single parenting has seemingly become an acceptable norm which is... Read More
Creating and making special memories with your child is very... Read More
Q. When you consult with a family with teens, what... Read More
One of the questions I ask in parenting presentations is... Read More
Home, home on the range, Where never is heard A... Read More
When planning a child birthday party, just a little bit... Read More
It was a hot summer day in august and The... Read More
Parents of hyperactive children know the "Would you please just... Read More
Parenting |