All children will likely have many different health problems during infancy and childhood: the flu, chicken pox, broken bones, stitches, ear infections, to name a few. For most children, these problems are mild ? they come and go without incident and with little disruption in a child's daily life or routine. A chronic long-term medical problem is different and often doesn't come alone, as children with serious medical illnesses are at risk of developing associated emotional problems. Learning to live with a chronic medical condition can be very challenging for a child, for parents, and for siblings and friends, and can lead to feelings of anger, fear and depression.
The way children react to diagnosis with a chronic illness depends on several factors, including the child's personality, the specific illness, family emotional dynamic, and the child's age and emotional maturity.
A smaller child may react aggressively as they begin to cope with changes in schedule due to hospital visits and all the new found pampering, and special attention. In usual development, young children are beginning to assert their sense of independence. Dealing with their illness may challenge their developing self-image and cause the child to feel out of control of their world. They counter lack of control over their world by challenging limits set by parents. A young child can also sense the difference in the attention now being lavished on him / her. This special attention may feel much different to the child and may cause them to react negatively in an attempt to stop the pampering.
The adolescent, in the midst of healthy adolescent behavior, may react to a diagnosis much as they would any other factor which inhibits their control ? by challenging authority and rebelling against family and friends. It is common for a teenager to choose to discontinue all medical treatments and medications. It is important to help your teenager gain a sense of control of their disease management and respect their decisions, while guiding them to safer decisions.
Let's take a look at Laura:
Laura is 9 yrs old. She had always been an energetic child who had maintained a healthy weight since pre-school. Over the past few months, Laura has lost weight, has become lethargic and frequently complained she was hungry and thirsty. Laura's doctor diagnosed her with insulin-dependent, or Type I, diabetes.
Laura is frightened. Her only knowledge of this disease is watching grandpa give himself his insulin shot. She would often run from the room due to her fear of needles.
Laura's initial treatments must be managed in a clinical environment until her glucose is better managed. While in the hospital she refuses to eat and eventually refuses all visitors. The emotional stress that she experiences only adds to the inability to control her diabetes.
Concerned that her emotional state is indicative of depression, Laura's medical team decides to have her evaluated by the mental health team. Laura cooperates for the visit and recommendations were provided to her doctor.
Laura is asked to attend group sessions for children with diabetes and begins to see children in similar situations. Through her sessions, she is encouraged to communicate her fears and concerns to her family, which are received openly and with love and support. While in the hospital, Laura's grandmother taught her to knit which had a tremendous impact upon her ability to move forward. Her knitting was a new found strength.
Here are some ways to assist your child when faced with chronic illness:
? Communicate: Children need age-appropriate honesty about their illness and treatment
? Self-evaluate: Keep yourself in check; your child understands verbal and non-verbal messages regarding the illness
? Support: Build upon your child's strengths.
? Consult: Rely upon your child's medical team for expertise
Dr. Charles Sophy serves as Medical Director for the Los Angeles County Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS), which is responsible for the health, safety and welfare of nearly 40,000 foster children. He also has a private psychiatry practice in Beverly Hills, California. Dr. Sophy has lectured extensively and is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the University of California Los Angeles Neuro-Psychiatric Institute. His lectures and teachings are consistently ranked as among the best by those in attendance.
Dr. Charles Sophy, author of the "Keep 'Em Off My Couch" blog, provides real simple answers for solving life's biggest problems. He specializes in improving the mental health of children. To contact Dr. Sophy, visit his blog at http://drsophy.com
limo prices to midway Crystal Lake west of Randal .. Lockport Chicago limo O’HareSo your little Susie wants to join a competitive gymnastic... Read More
Oh yes you have! Suddenly, "Where's Bobby?" You instantly realize... Read More
Sitting by her Pinocchio lamp, she smiled at me as... Read More
Here is something that you might want to keep if... Read More
Many people still think that the game of chess is... Read More
Is your weekly shopping trip with the kids an absolute... Read More
I am a dad. I have been now for over... Read More
When my oldest daughter was born, I walked the floor... Read More
Q. I don't like my children spending so much time... Read More
Are you being smart about water conservation? Do you consider... Read More
What a dreamer I am when thinking about parenthood. Most... Read More
Many working families choose a commercial or individual day care... Read More
Every now and then I'll get a story sent to... Read More
Spending quality time with your children doesn't need to cost... Read More
Everyone knows that exercise is good for your health. Exercising... Read More
I thought I was the only one in the world... Read More
Although it's hard to say when the first stuffed dogs... Read More
Ok. So you're a dad to be. If you're like... Read More
Here is a list of ways to convey the message... Read More
Most parents can hardly wait for their baby to say... Read More
Children are notoriously bad at drinking enough liquids. They are... Read More
Many children who suffer from the psychological effects of child... Read More
It is human nature to feel competitive and envious toward... Read More
In my opinion, these things matter...1. Enjoying childlike delights before... Read More
'And all because of a damned cat! It's only a... Read More
taxi o'hare Auburn ..The 21st Century Problem in Schools: Bullying, and How to... Read More
Children do what feels good to them and follow their... Read More
Optimists do better academically, socially and enjoy better health than... Read More
Vouchers, which give tax money to parents to pay for... Read More
As a step daughter and step grand daughter, I followed... Read More
Managing money is one of the most critical skills we... Read More
As Mother's Day approaches I would like to give a... Read More
The Theme from MASHI flipped the button on the remote... Read More
Learning obedience is an important part of child development. This... Read More
There are a lot of sophisticated parenting theories and techniques... Read More
Once the newness has worn off a little, you will... Read More
Here is an easy, inexpensive and fun kid experiment for... Read More
I know this Mom. She homeschools her 5 children, plus... Read More
Successful families don't just happen. They take time, talent and... Read More
John Bishop's Goal Setting for Students.comParents ? Minimize Homework Hassles?It's... Read More
Q. How do I overcome the 16-year-old who does things... Read More
"Now don't you go getting any ideas, Harold.""Don't you get... Read More
In our last issue we posted some of our suggested... Read More
Most parents at some stage are driven to distraction by... Read More
"Family Matters" was the headline that caught my attention in... Read More
Certainly we all want our children to excel. But it... Read More
Q. I don't like my children spending so much time... Read More
My oldest boy is fifteen and was a real jerk... Read More
Loving your step-child can be both simple and hard. It... Read More
Do you have a young child whose weight or eating... Read More
Parenting |