My kids ask me all the time to take them to playgrounds or any other public place. I can't help to think that the risk involved in this is greater than we are often aware of. I have four kids, which makes the task of keeping track of everyone very stressful. To me, taking my children to a public place is not "a walk in the park" anymore. Actually, I feel that I am a little traumatized. My 8 year old son, (a very active little guy), has been lost 3 times in public places. Once in a huge department store at the age of 3, another time in a natural park where he took off in his bicycle by himself at the age of 4 and the latest time in a crowded public fair at the age of 5. Fortunately he has always been found save and sound.
Small children are very unpredictable. Their logic is very different from ours. They tend to forget the importance of staying close to you and they get distracted very easily.
How many times have you taken your kids to a playground and suddenly you don't see them anymore, you start looking for them and your heart starts pounding. Luckily you finally see them playing away unaware of the panic attack you just had. It all happens in seconds but it seems like an eternity until you finally see your precious children again. But for how many parents this is not the case? How many of them never find their child who was just beside them a minute ago? Who had just been seen playing in the playground a second ago?
What can we do as parents to prevent such a tragedy from happening to our family? The best thing we can do is to be prepared and to take certain simple precautions and do our best to prevent this terrible thing from happening.
Each and every time you go to a public place with small children take these 10 tips in consideration:
1. Remind them of the importance of staying close to you and always to inform you to where they are going. This may sound very simple but the best way not to loose your children is to have them close to you at all times.
2. Teach them the importance of keeping a safe distance with you. If they cannot see you, they are not in a safe distance anymore.
3. Choose a meeting place that you know they can remember in case they do get lost. If the children are too small, it might be a better idea to tell them to stay in the place where they realized they were lost. Most of the time you are not too far away from them. But if they start looking for you, it makes it a lot more difficult to find them.
4. If you are in a mall or a department store, identify the staff's uniform and security guard's uniform with your children. Ask them to look for them if they happen to feel lost.
5. Teach them not to talk to strangers. It is unfortunate that we need to teach our children to avoid talking to strangers, but the truth is, with today's world, it's not safe anymore to let your children talk freely to a stranger.
6. If your children are old enough to memorize phone numbers, go through the basic family information such as the home phone number, your cell phone number and your address. Also, give them some change in case they need to call you from a pay phone.
7. Memorize the clothing they are wearing. If it makes it easier for you, put on similar colours in all of your children. During a panic attack you feel confused enough to even forget what your child is wearing.
8. Place a card in one of their pockets with all of the basic information: Your name, your child's name, phone number, cell phone numbers and address. Even if the child is able to memorize this information he/she will panic as well and they could forget it all. Do not place this information in a visible spot as an abductor could take advantage of this to create a familiar atmosphere calling the child by his own name. Also it's important to avoid any piece of clothing containing your child's name.
9. Choose books from the library that teach kids why it's so important not to talk to strangers and after you have finished reading, take some time to discuss the content with your children. You could ask them questions to make sure they understand the message. You can also play the "what if" game and let them figure out what to do in a certain imaginary dangerous situation.
10. Last but not least, talk to them about the dangers that a small child has these days. Unfortunately, we have to give our children some tools to defend themselves in the case of an attempt of abduction. They should know what to do so that they can act quickly. They should not converse with any stranger. If the stranger insists in talking with them, they should leave immediately and ignore the person. They should not volunteer to give any information or directions to a stranger. They should also know about the tricks abductors use to attract a child. They could use a cute puppy, or ask them to find a lost puppy. They could use delicious candy or attracting toys. They could appear to be very friendly or they could even look like adorable grandmothers.
During the first time my son got lost in the department store, I kept thinking of all the things we should have done to prevent this from happening. When he was finally found I thought this would be the first and the last time this would ever happen. I was so frighten by the idea of loosing my child again that I did very little to prepare him for a similar incident. When it happened the second time, I realized the importance of having a plan in place. I also realized that fear doesn't take you anywhere. You need to act before it's too late. Once your child is lost, he is on his own. If he hasn't been prepared to face this situation, the only hope you will have is to trust in his own ability to find you. Nothing can guarantee that our children won't get lost. But if at least your child has a way to help himself when you cannot help him. This could pretty well safe his life.
My name is Mia Dominguez. This is my first article. I have always been interested in writing but have never gone "public" with anything until today. I wrote this particular article in the hope that my experience can help other parents in keeping our children safe in today's world. I hope many of you will find it useful. I strongly believe that keeping a family together is one of the most important things in life and in today's society. God, my dear husband and my 4 children are my highest inspirations.
My husband and I work together from home on different internet projects. You can go to our eBay CD store at http://stores.ebay.com/alberto2000colour
Also you can check our web page at http://stores.ebay.com/alberto2000colour
God Bless.
monthly home cleaning Buffalo Grove ..One of the most powerful tools that parents have for... Read More
As a parent your biggest responsibility is to prepare your... Read More
For most children, it is easy to learn to read... Read More
Parents are always looking for ways to open up the... Read More
As Mother's Day approaches I would like to give a... Read More
There may really be a real monster under your kid???s... Read More
Here are fourteen spontaneous time-outs, specially designed to help you... Read More
There has been much attention in the media of late... Read More
It's funny how people seem to think that they have... Read More
A common problem many times facing parents is Colic. Estimates... Read More
The children of Baby Boomers, the Echo Generation, are entering... Read More
Winifred or Willow? Thomas or Troy? The name you choose... Read More
Maryann is so focused she's blind. She's slipped over the... Read More
Saying no to our children is not always easy or... Read More
Q: A parent writes in to ask, "You write a... Read More
I look out of the window as I am writing... Read More
Everyone in a private practice setting who works with children... Read More
It is extraordinary times that we find ourselves in. Change... Read More
It is hard to believe that summer is coming to... Read More
Do you praise your child when he fulfils a basic... Read More
I know as a single parent or even with 2... Read More
Identity and Your Fraternal TwinFor the most part, throughout this... Read More
It was a hot summer day in august and The... Read More
1. New Word of the DayIntroduce your preschooler to a... Read More
"If a kid asks where rain comes from, I think... Read More
scheduled maid service Mundelein ..Memorabilia ? Children can create enough artwork for an entire... Read More
Q. We are getting to the stage with our kids... Read More
My name is Duncan and I'm 2 years old. I... Read More
We've got spirit, yes we do! We've got spirit how... Read More
Why are more people, especially parents not outraged?I call it... Read More
Successful families don't just happen. They take time, talent and... Read More
Not too long ago my teenage daughter approached me with... Read More
Over a number of years there have been issues raised... Read More
Teri was 5. As younger siblings do, she looked up... Read More
Whether children attend public or private schools, they benefit when... Read More
You're trying to catch up on some sleep on a... Read More
The big yellow school bus is coming down my road... Read More
Are your children truthful, kind, and helpful? If so, read... Read More
I remember watching my 18-month-old son eat a big frosted... Read More
Are men to blame for the divorce problem in this... Read More
Does music need to be "dumbed-down" for kids? The answer... Read More
The biggest trick some child predators' are using these days... Read More
Reasearch into children's friendships shows that those children who are... Read More
Many parental units are not "techies" and openly admit they... Read More
As thinking, acting human beings we have the ability to... Read More
If your child has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder then at... Read More
Search for Assurance: The Power of BelongingThe job hunt is... Read More
So, the thing is? I am feeling a little guilty.I... Read More
"Will my doubts and fears affect my child?" This father... Read More
Have you ever watched your teenager make a mistake (that... Read More
Parenting |