As the flurry of Back to School activities subside, parents are left to ponder more pressing issues than notebooks, backpacks, and sneakers.
Will my child succeed this year? Will his academic and social growth meet my hopes and expectations? Have I done everything I can to make this possible?
If you haven't prepared your child for the school bully, not only could your dreams and aspirations end in failure, but your child could fall victim to the violence, and suffer long-lasting repercussions.
Make no mistake; bullying is a form of violence. Experts estimate that almost 75% of today's youth will be involved in some aspect of bullying before they enter high school. And chances are, your child will be among the statistics.
Humiliation, fear, anxiety and depression are the constant companions of a child that is bullied. It can lead to harmful, shocking and unexpected behavior from an otherwise shy or timid child.
Victims feel ashamed and tend to view themselves as failures. They are more prone to stress related illnesses such as headaches and stomachaches. In extreme cases, the victim of a bully can experience sever depression and entertain thoughts of suicide.
Lack of safety is one of the top concerns of young people, and bullying is a real and constant threat. A child's emotional development is just as important, if not more so, than academic development. In fact, a safe, healthy emotional environment is essential to academic growth and success.
How do you prepare your child for the school bully?
Become involved and make certain your school has active anti-bullying policies in place. Disciplinary guidelines, procedures for investigating and reporting incidences of bullying, adequate supervision, and an immediate plan of action to address reports of bullying are key elements to a successful program.
Teach your child to walk tall and proud and to maintain eye contact. Portraying a positive, self-confident stature will help your child cope in many areas.
Be certain to compliment your child and gently encourage changes that will bolster self-esteem. Use positive words that validate his or her rights as a person.
Use role-playing techniques to illustrate proper responses to negative situations. This will build strength, courage and provide your child with valuable emotional resources to pull from in times of trouble.
Help your child to identify role models, from sports heroes to everyday man. Discuss the obstacles and accomplishments they endured, focusing on the resilient human spirit.
Read stories together that inspire. Discuss how strength of character and perseverance can achieve a positive outcome without resorting to violence or force.
Encourage your child to keep a diary or journal, write poetry or songs. Writing provides a safe outlet for your child and creativity and self-expression are helpful tools used to work through negative issues.
If your child has difficulties making or maintaining friends, intervene - friendships are a protection against bullying. Identify children that might have things in common with your child and arrange a visit.
Encourage your child to join activities both in and out of school that will result in friendships while building strength and confidence.
But most important, don't diminish your child's concern over a classmate's taunting and teasing, it could very well lead to damaging repercussions. Instead, prepare your child for the bully by empowering him with confidence and self-esteem through your words, actions and embrace.
About The Author
Patricia Gatto and John De Angelis are the authors of MILTON'S DILEMMA, the tale of a lonely boy's magical journey to friendship and self-acceptance. As advocates for literacy and children's rights, the authors speak at schools and community events to foster awareness and provide children with a safe and healthy learning environment. For more information, please visit Joyful Productions at http://www.joyfulproductions.com
http://www.joyfulproductions.com
tidy up service Northbrook ..Q. My daughter is a junior in high school and... Read More
Do you want to create a deeper, more loving relationship... Read More
Be aware. You may become totally overwhelmed when you get... Read More
Here is a list of ways to convey the message... Read More
The small, lilac colored hexagonal box, with Winnie the Pooh... Read More
Even as a busy parent, I'm sure you've seen a... Read More
Ritalin is a good medication with a bad reputation. Its... Read More
Learning responsibility is an ever widening and lifelong process.As thinking,... Read More
Much has been said about the "gifted child" but in... Read More
Puberty can be a difficult time for children. Not quite... Read More
From the time the Mayflower landed at Plymouth Rock in... Read More
Q. We just got our daughter's progress report, and it... Read More
We want our children to do the right thing, especially... Read More
Having a high level of emotional intelligence in your children... Read More
Is there a difference between lazy and unmotivated? Why do... Read More
You are at the grocery store with your daughter and... Read More
Would you like your child to be the best that... Read More
My husband and I have a 12-year-old daughter who wanted... Read More
As a mother of two sets of fraternal boy/girl twins,... Read More
The key to lifelong learning is reading and writing. When... Read More
Are you being smart about water conservation? Do you consider... Read More
For any of you Moms out there that are doing... Read More
Sitterphobe "I never have a second to myself," this mother... Read More
KIDS AND THE NEWSMore than ever, children witness innumerable, sometimes... Read More
Although it's hard to say when the first stuffed dogs... Read More
reliable home cleaners Buffalo Grove ..(Excerpted from Jim Rohn's 2004 Weekend Leadership Event)You have to... Read More
Software for parental control is a useful tool, if applied... Read More
There are several treatment options available to help improve the... Read More
Q. Things have been relatively calm and OK with our... Read More
Those of you that have children know what an excursion... Read More
Using 14 "at" Flashcards To Teach Reading:This exercise helps your... Read More
In dealing with children with autism spectrum disorders, its all... Read More
I was reading "A Modern Infant Armada", a humor column... Read More
I really like all natural remedy for Attention Deficit Disorder... Read More
Do you have a high maintenance child?"Thank goodness my second... Read More
When our oldest son was 2, my wife went out... Read More
With the beginning of the new school year coming VERY... Read More
Some public schools try to turn children against their parents... Read More
Because most teens have not had the experience of getting... Read More
Having a babysitter take care of your kids is sometimes... Read More
I have three children, ages 19 and 16 (yes, the... Read More
To every thing there is a season, and a time... Read More
My husband and I have a 12-year-old daughter who wanted... Read More
Here's a scene: A parent "might suddenly grab a happliy... Read More
Oh yes you have! Suddenly, "Where's Bobby?" You instantly realize... Read More
Isn't it ironic that a country whose constitution allows for... Read More
A certain educator was once asked at what point should... Read More
Most of us when asked what we want our children... Read More
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Results of the Spanking Poll on Rexanne.com: Voters - 233Percentage... Read More
Last night Tom's daughter, Sue, came out of her room... Read More
Parenting |