In his recent newsletter "Happy Kids", parenting expert Michael Grose (yes he is an expert with three kids of his own) said:
Australian parents currently rate achieving work-family balance as their greatest parenting challenge. Currently, 71% of Australian parents say they have difficulty finding time to do the things they enjoy with their children.
So what are the key relationship-builders to focus on when you are busy and life is full on?
A number of different studies show children and young people want three types of interactions with their parents:
Family rituals such as reading to children in bed, shared mealtimes and celebrations. Some activities may come and go but rituals by definition are cut in stone.
One-on-one interactions are vital for relationship building. Whether it is playing a game with a child or having a coffee with a teenager make sure you regularly spend some time with each of your children on their own. This goes double for middle children or those having difficulties in their lives.
Down-time so that spontaneous and fun interactions can occur. Family holidays and lazy Sundays provide opportunities to connect on an informal basis with children. This is particularly important for fathers who tend to communicate best when having some shared fun with their son or daughter.
The challenge for busy people is to carve out some time for these important relationship-building opportunities. Those people who can successfully balance the two spheres of work and family use similar skills at home to those they use at work such as prioritising, delegating and planning ahead. Make family activities a priority and plan around them rather than fitting them in at the end of the day or week when you are tired. It also helps if you get support from home and also have some support and recognition at work that you have a family at home that needs your energy and attention. www.parentingideas.com.au
You Can Turn Your Life Around
You certainly can turn your life around by learning to say 'no', learning how to manage your time and then taking action.
That's right. Everyone tells you how busy and how little time they have, yet most people do nothing to learn the skills that will have a dramatic impact on their work and personal lives.
Cats in the Cradle
For those of you old enough to remember, Harry Chapin recorded a song called "Cats in the Cradle". It was about a young boy whose Dad was always busy working. He never seemed to be available when his son wanted to be with him. Over the years this continued until the boy became an adult. By then his Dad had retired and had time on his hands, however his son had now become too busy to see his Dad. He too was working and had kids. The tables had turned. All of a sudden the Dad realised what he had done. He was too busy caught up in his work and missed out on his son growing up.
The Final Word
Bringing up balanced, positive and well-adjusted children is the most satisfying thing you can ever do. Whatever successes you have had in your life, nothing beats the feeling when you look at your child knowing you have made a major contribution to the way they've turned out. (Also the opposite can be true?if you're child has run off the rails, you may have to take a look in the mirror).
If you have kids and you seriously want to have more time with them, then take action today. There are many simple changes you can make that will free up your time. If you're too bogged down and can't see how, then get some help?contact us.
Whatever you do, don't do nothing. Kids grow up very quickly. I know from personal experience.. My eldest child turned 21 last week and next year my son goes off to high school. I am so grateful that I have played a major role in their upbringing and regardless of how busy my schedule has been, I have always made my family the highest priority.
You can have more work/life balance if you really want to. All it takes are a few changes to the way you currently operate your life.
Remember, nothing changes, if nothing changes.
About The Author
Lorraine specialises in working with businesspeople showing them how to dramatically boost their productivity, reduce the stress and the mess in their lives and have more time for enjoying their life.
express cleaning service Arlington Heights ..It was blisteringly hot last Saturday. As I took that... Read More
So you're going to become a father. Now is not... Read More
Parents are losing their self-control to anger. A friend called... Read More
For the first year or two of life outside the... Read More
Having been a parent educator and a PBS consultant for... Read More
1. STOP focusing on what you are going to make... Read More
Are you looking for the Ultimate Airplane Themed Party Games... Read More
Words are truly powerful things. They are something that becomes... Read More
Once, as a Learning Support Teacher, I made my way... Read More
This article on parenting is by a practicing relationship counsellor/therapist,... Read More
It is extraordinary times that we find ourselves in. Change... Read More
Why do some children still do best after divorce and... Read More
Mealtimes together deserve an important place in any family. Around... Read More
Fizzy sherbet in a paper bag with a strawberry lollipop... Read More
Chaim Ginott was a schoolteacher whose ideas and observations helped... Read More
Moms and dads, are there times you think that parenting... Read More
Our children are growing up bilingual in the French part... Read More
Life is funny.My twenty-year-old daughter, Melanie, has a her new... Read More
Backpack? Check. Notebooks? Check. Ink-pens? Check. Clear Skin? Mommmm!If you... Read More
Diapers..Changing a dirty diaper is not the best part of... Read More
Although it's hard to say when the first stuffed dogs... Read More
Children do what feels good to them and follow their... Read More
This past holiday season Canadians spent over $45 billion-with parents... Read More
What's new and effective in the treatment of Attention problems?... Read More
As a parent, are you at your wits end? Does... Read More
tidy up service Arlington Heights ..One fantastic way to get your children involved in what... Read More
Many parents would like to homeschool their children but are... Read More
WHEN AN INJURY HAPPENS AT CAMP, HERE'S WHAT YOU NEED... Read More
Q. How do I overcome the 16-year-old who does things... Read More
Several similar terms describe the central attribute of a character... Read More
Parental example, whether for good or for bad, is undoubtedly... Read More
Do you want your child to cooperate with you more?Children... Read More
Prenatal intelligence, also known as fetal intelligence, has become a... Read More
Isn't the technology of today is amazing?! Between the speed... Read More
O.K. I've heard it a hundred times from my prison... Read More
Few things are more completely enjoyable than becoming a grandparent.... Read More
Teens can freely access the Internet from computers at school,... Read More
Here are ten simple pleasures you can enjoy with your... Read More
If you are a parent, then more than likely you... Read More
Reasearch into children's friendships shows that those children who are... Read More
For several years now, I've told the following story as... Read More
Drivers 16 years of age have little driving experience, putting... Read More
John Bishop's Goal Setting for Students.comParents ? Minimize Homework Hassles?It's... Read More
Criticism is punitiveOur children judge themselves on the opinions we... Read More
I am a single mother of a 17 year old... Read More
The big yellow school bus is coming down my road... Read More
Maintain CommunicationEven though teens need to separate from their parents... Read More
I thought I was the only one in the world... Read More
'Whose room is it anyway?'If you have a teenager, you're... Read More
Sometimes dreams really can come true! May 8th - 11th,... Read More
Parenting |