How well do you really know your child?
There is so much information at our fingertips to learn more about a child's personality, 'behaviorisms' and intelligence. Of course, we want to be the best parent we can, and so we read all the information. And some of it is great! Take the four different temperaments . . . I can see my child in one, but then I turn the page and I see him in another temperament ? it all depends on the day or even the time of day!
I used to spend a lot of time looking at ways to give labels to my children. I thought that if I could just find the word that would sum them up, parenting would become so much easier. When child number three came along, I just didn't have the time to be searching for someone else's opinion about the type of child he was. I don't want any label other than his name used on him. This kind of parental confidence can be hard to find. We seem to be knocked off balance every time we read a newspaper ? you know, another piece of research, another thing we are doing wrong. But you are the one to understand and know your child the best. And this knowledge will teach you how to interact and support your own, individual child.
Seven Ways to Know Your Child Better
1. Observe your child: That's right. Just back off and actually watch them. Watch them at play, at work and while they are reading.
2. Allow your child to discovery their tendencies: Does your child, given the opportunity, rush to the Lego box, or maybe to the pile of books or to the art supplies. Find out what your child chooses to do ? it is probably this that they are good at!
3. Take lots of photographs: In this age of digital photography, it doesn't matter how many photographs we take, because we needn't print or keep them all. Photographs provide an excellent memory of what your child does ? and you will probably notice things you hadn't before.
4. Let your child dictate stories to you: Many children enjoy the art of storytelling, but find actual handwriting tiresome. Take this strain away from them by being their secretary. You'll be surprised at how your child's brain works when they create their stories.
5. Create a journal: Now, this doesn't need to be a work of art! Have a blank scrapbook and write in it, get them to draw pictures, glue in certificates and photographs.
6. Trust your instincts: Teachers may give you a wider understanding of your child ? take it on board ? but remember that your instincts are probably right.
7. Talk often with your child: Make sure you let your child lead a conversation with you every day. If you are the one that holds all the information and knowledge in your house, your child will be less likely to share with you. Let them joke, let them explore their emotions and let them just babble away.
Marilynn McLachlan, Author REAL parenting in the REAL world Author of "The New Parent Code: 12 Vital Clues for Achieving Modern Family Sanity", Penguin Books, 2005.
Visit http://www.marilynnmclachlan.com to sign up for her free fortnightly e-zine.
tidy up service Northbrook ..Are you a professional?Notice how the questions differs from, "Do... Read More
? Let the child choose his or her own lunch... Read More
It was at that time when our marriage was falling... Read More
Imagine a child who lacks ownership of his own life,... Read More
My cousin boasts five names and I confess that when... Read More
Are you glad for the chance to put your child... Read More
We take it for granted that children know how money... Read More
When kids try new things, sometimes it's a 'fit' and... Read More
Is your weekly shopping trip with the kids an absolute... Read More
When parents help their children learn to read, they help... Read More
Are your children truthful, kind, and helpful? If so, read... Read More
Most teens go into the work world ill-prepared to manage... Read More
While youth gangs are nothing new -- they've been traced... Read More
It's that time again! Parent-teacher conferences are coming. Are you... Read More
You may think once your child has gone off to... Read More
For troubled teens who are struggling with drug abuse, depression... Read More
Advocate: you've probably heard the term before. But what does... Read More
In the news, we hear and see an increasing number... Read More
One of the basic issues we need to understand is... Read More
What is a parenting problem?Parenting is a tough job, we... Read More
The formula is pretty straightforward: energy in/energy out. This is... Read More
Whenever parents discuss how to deal with bed wetting, the... Read More
Reading is the most efficient and economical way to help... Read More
Let's face it: raising children can be quite the adventure.... Read More
According to the American Sleep Association 70% of all babies... Read More
reliable home cleaners Buffalo Grove ..Looking back through my files I've come across several great... Read More
We begin forming healthy habits at a young age. With... Read More
We were all teens at one time for some many... Read More
Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
Being in a competitive world, the lowest qualification to secure... Read More
Any parent whose baby has suffered from colic can tell... Read More
From the book Spider's Night on the BoomI've only begun... Read More
A while ago I received this story from David in... Read More
The choices are mind numbing. Walk into any toy store... Read More
Did you know that cooking with your kids is a... Read More
Many parents seem to be more than a little confused... Read More
Like anything else in life, there's a method to the... Read More
Words are truly powerful things. They are something that becomes... Read More
Have you ever sat and watch a child struggle with... Read More
Q. Things have been relatively calm and OK with our... Read More
Public-school teaching is structured in such a way that it... Read More
Not many things are more upsetting than discovering that your... Read More
Checking accounts are an absolute necessity these days. You can... Read More
Goal setting is essential for building a successful life. However,... Read More
In June, elementary school children across North America cheered as... Read More
Quite simply, an absolute nightmare for parents and babies alike,... Read More
Children and teenagers are relentlessly bombarded with merchandise that entices.... Read More
Children do what feels good to them and follow their... Read More
Do you think you really know your child? I don't... Read More
Many families do not want to believe their child is... Read More
Parenting |