Mommy (Daddy), Why do those people want to hurt everyone?
Last week, the world was shaken by another terrorist attack. Hot on the heels of the Live 8 benefits and in the middle of the G8 Summit, bombs exploded in London. Adults around the globe were glued to CNN and spent time discussing their feelings about the event around the water cooler at work, with their partners at home or in online discussion groups and e-mails. Collectively, we reached out and were comforted and reassured by the words of Prime Minister Tony Blair and other world leaders.
Many adults, however, do not realize how many kids are exposed to the same news. Older children may read the newspaper or watch the news on TV. Others may be exposed to "breaking news" during an interruption in their favorite cartoon t.v. program and still others can easily stumble across the information online via MSN, Yahoo, Google or any of the other online portals. While adults were declaring their solidarity in the War On Terror last week, many children's anxieties and fears were being overlooked.
In our efforts to protect our children and preserve the innocence of childhood as long as possible, we attempt to shield them from the atrocities that occur in today's turbulent times. When events such as the bombs in London, the events at the elementary school in Belsan, Russia in September, 2004 and the September 11th attacks on the World Trade Center occur, our natural instinct is to not discuss the events of the day with our children. Yet, as news of terrorist attacks or other tragedies surround them, your children may be feeling frightened, anxious, sad and confused.
As a parent, only you can decide what news is appropriate for your children but do not assume that your child does not have an awareness of the tragic events that have a global impact. It's important to talk to your children about the actions that shape our lives but the amount of information you share with your child differs across age groups and even from child to child.
The best way to make sure kids know they are safe, is to talk with them about what they see and hear and give them a chance to express their feelings.
Parents with children reacting to the news should:
? Know all the facts: Parents should help their children cope with the attacks first by finding out how much they know about what happened.
? Know yourself: Try to be aware of your own anxieties in order to know your child's.
? Know your child: Children may not have the verbal capacity to discuss their anxieties. Watch for new behavioral/physical manifestations of their fears. For example, your child may reveal his/her anxiety by not wanting to separate to go to school or camp.
? Reduce media exposure: It's important to filter the information that your child receives so that you can control the intensity of the reaction, instill in your child your sense of values and moral principles, and keep the lines of communication open and let them ask questions.
? Build a plan: Children, no matter their age, are primarily concerned with safety "Am I safe? Is my family safe?" To allay their fears, work with your child to create a safety plan.
Remember: World disasters are scary for adults and children alike. Always reach for more assistance when unsure of your next step.
Dr. Charles Sophy currently serves as Medical Director for the Los Angeles County Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS), which is responsible for the health, safety and welfare of nearly 40,000 foster children. He also has a private psychiatry practice in Beverly Hills, California. Dr. Sophy has lectured extensively and is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the University of California Los Angeles Neuro-Psychiatric Institute. His lectures and teachings are consistently ranked as among the best by those in attendance.
Dr. Charles Sophy, author of the "Keep 'Em Off My Couch" blog, provides real simple answers for solving life's biggest problems. He specializes in improving the mental health of children. To contact Dr. Sophy, visit his blog at http://drsophy.com
car service from Midway Burlington .. Lockport Chicago limo O’HareOn one of her quarterly visits to see her grandson,... Read More
You are at the grocery store with your daughter and... Read More
Until about the age of six, children do not generally... Read More
Do you live with an ADD / ADHD child? If... Read More
Perhaps I could make a lot of money by founding... Read More
When my oldest boy was really young, he tickled my... Read More
Although nothing anybody says can ever completely prepare a woman... Read More
The disquieting behavior of teenagers in the 21st century, is... Read More
Lets face it becoming a mum is a bit of... Read More
Recess has begun disappearing in states all around the country.... Read More
Traditionally, babies have been named at a christening/baptism.... Read More
Is there a difference between lazy and unmotivated? Why do... Read More
A while ago I received this story from David in... Read More
As part of the whole-language (or "balanced") reading-instruction philosophy, many... Read More
Finding answers to a child's underachievement is often a difficult... Read More
As a parent you will be asked to assist with... Read More
1. Make stronger connections among individuals and, therefore, creates a... Read More
KIDS AND THE NEWSMore than ever, children witness innumerable, sometimes... Read More
17 Quick Ways to Strengthen the Bonds of LoveOn Mother's... Read More
Here we will come to know who are the most... Read More
Best friends! It may seem impossible to believe, but today's... Read More
Mother's Day is important for children.This Mother's Day take note... Read More
Before going further into choosing computers for children, I believe... Read More
In today's mental health system there is a pattern of... Read More
Would you like your child to be the best that... Read More
Granger limo Chicago ..Impulsivity is one of the hallmarks of people with Attention... Read More
The great thing about children is they absorb knowledge like... Read More
Software for parental control is a useful tool, if applied... Read More
Not all parents subscribe to the notion of "tough love,"... Read More
I could nearly fund my children's future education if I... Read More
When David was nine and Laura was twelve, the battles... Read More
Some people can concentrate on an assignment, to the exclusion... Read More
Parents play a critical role in their child's success. These... Read More
Dear Camille,As I thumb through the photographs that I carry... Read More
Every summer our daughter goes to summer camp. She looks... Read More
? Let the child choose his or her own lunch... Read More
Reading is the most important skill that a child must... Read More
Most teens go into the work world ill-prepared to manage... Read More
Assuming there are no serious motor problems present, what can... Read More
I look out of the window as I am writing... Read More
Identity and Your Fraternal TwinFor the most part, throughout this... Read More
Each child carries a unique picture of the self, shaped... Read More
Dan Rather made a significant and tactical error and got... Read More
Words are truly powerful things. They are something that becomes... Read More
When we consider that the word allowance means, "allowing for,"... Read More
We've got spirit, yes we do! We've got spirit how... Read More
I hear from many parents that their child is stressed... Read More
Q. When you consult with a family with teens, what... Read More
I am a dad. I have been now for over... Read More
Q. Our 17-year-old son wants us to let his girlfriend... Read More
Parenting |