Did you know that you are the most important person in your child's life? Of course you did.
But did you know that parents of children with learning disabilities can also be their child's most effective advocate.
What exactly is an advocate? An advocate is someone who speaks up for someone else, or who acts on behalf of another person. As a parent, you know your child better than anyone else, and you are in the best position to speak for him and act on his behalf.
Here are 10 ways you can do that:
1. Realize from the beginning that advocating for your child takes a lot of time. Advocating involves a great deal of research, meeting time, and communication. That's a given. But the end result will be a successful,responsible, happy young adult who will be able to survive the pitfalls of the real world.
2. Be informed. The more you know about what is going on with your child, the more comfortable you will be in helping others understand him. Here are some ways you can become informed:
a. Read all you can about learning disabilities (especially your child's learning disability).
b. Attend conferences. That's a great way to learn and make contact with other people faced with similar issues.
c. Ask questions - seek answers.
d. Join a support group if there is one available. You can learn a lot from a support group.
3. Become familiar with the rules and regulations that apply to your child's special education program. You request copies of the regulations from your local school district office (the special education office, if your district has one) or from your state Department of Education. If you have difficulty understanding these rules and regulations, don't be afraid to ask the special education director or your child's special education teacher to explain them to you.
4. Work together closely with the professionals who work with your child. This should be done in a positive, cohesive way in order for the child to gain the maximum benefit. Get to know these people - talk with them on a regular basis. Volunteer in the classroom. Don't be afraid to ask for a meeting with the teacher(s) if you see something going on at home that can be helped at school, or vice versa.
5. Keep track of the paperwork that is given to you at the team meetings. This is valuable information that should be kept in an organized place so that you can refer to it easily. If you aren't sure how to do this, talk with the special education director or special education teacher. They have a system to keep the records organized in the office. Perhaps they would share that with you.
6. Don't be afraid to communicate with the professionals. Be prepared when you go to the team meetings, and don't be afraid to calmly and assertively state your views. Take notes into the meeting with you so you won't forget the questions you want to ask or the points you want to make. Remember, the professionals need insight from you as much as you need insight from them. The more communication you have, the more powerful the educational team to help your child.
7. Don't be afraid to ask questions. The field of special education is as complex as your child's needs. Asking questions doesn't mean that you are stupid. It just means that you are interested in your child's education and well- being and want to be an informed parent. You will most likely hear the professionals asking lots of questions as well!!!
8. Keep the lines of communication open with your child. Talk with him about his life both in and outside school. Allow him to express his frustrations, his successes, his disappointments, his hopes, his likes and his dislikes. The better you know your child and what is going on with him, the better you can help other people to work with him.
9. Know your child's strengths and weaknesses and share them with the professionals. Children with learning disabilities, although they have weaker areas, have many strong areas, too. By highlighting these areas, it makes it easier for the professionals to use them as tools to strengthen the weaker skills. It helps them see the child in a more positive light, and it helps them relate to the child. And it helps your child's self-esteem to know that the teachers sees good things in him.
10. Help your child learn to advocate for himself as early as possible. As time goes on, and your child has heard you advocate for him, he will be able to understand how to advocate for himself. If he's heard you say positive things, not only does it increase his self-esteem but it gives him the confidence to speak up for what he needs. Teach him how to communicate how he learns best, what he needs to help him get the most from his classes, and how he feels when confronted with certain issues, such as testing and peer pressure. Give him the power to make his life a success.
You can help your child be able to be a successful, happy, responsible student, well on his way to being the same kind of adult. Advocate for him.
For more plain talk about learning disabilities, please visit us at www.ldperspectives.com.
Sandy Gauvin is a retired educator who has seen learning disabilities from many perspectives - as the parent of a daughter with learning disabilities, as the teacher of children with learning disabilities, and as an advocate for others who have diagnosed and unrecognized learning disabilities. Sandy shares her wisdom and her resources at www.ldperspectives.com
efficient cleaning crew Northbrook ..There is little doubt that reading, 'riting and 'rithmetic are... Read More
Did you know that the school system is only able... Read More
Chaim Ginott was a schoolteacher whose ideas and observations helped... Read More
Corolle Paul or Emma Drink-and-Wet SET potty dollsThis is the... Read More
Memorizing math facts is a necessary part of elementary school.... Read More
Although many parents are concerned with our children's intelligence quotient... Read More
One of the most prevalent myths of our modern culture... Read More
Q. How do I overcome the 16-year-old who does things... Read More
Few things are more completely enjoyable than becoming a grandparent.... Read More
According to the American Sleep Association 70% of all babies... Read More
John Bishop's Goal Setting for Students.comLegacy to Your ChildrenIt's 6:30... Read More
Thank you for all that you do in the classroom!... Read More
Home-schooling removes children from public school. That alone makes home-schooling... Read More
As mothers, we play so many different roles and most... Read More
Not all parents subscribe to the notion of "tough love,"... Read More
I'll never forget my first lesson in a glider.I'd been... Read More
Direct Answers - Column for the week of May 31,... Read More
Research published by University of Rochester neuroscientists C. Shawn Green... Read More
Working with adults (as well as children and teens) for... Read More
Many research studies have shown the overall effectiveness of stimulant... Read More
I don't know how people raise daughters because I have... Read More
What are we teaching our children about money? Hopefully something!I... Read More
Hints from Ruowen Wang? Keep a small basket filled with... Read More
"Not another meeting!"That tends to be the reaction from many... Read More
Here in Kansas, where we live, the leaves are turning... Read More
cleaning lady near Wilmette ..As thinking, acting human beings we have the ability to... Read More
Most people with children want to be good parents. The... Read More
We were all teens at one time for some many... Read More
How should one look upon Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)... Read More
The main thing we noticed since having a baby is... Read More
Have you heard the song; "I Hope You Dance"? It... Read More
Is there a way to build a robot to help... Read More
Being in a competitive world, the lowest qualification to secure... Read More
One of the challenges for parents with a gifted child... Read More
As our children grow, they will be going to schools... Read More
What one word best sums up summer fun? Water. I... Read More
The great thing about children is they absorb knowledge like... Read More
It is hard to believe that summer is coming to... Read More
What are the easiest things citizens can do to prevent... Read More
In school, kids are encouraged to create, draw, color, paint... Read More
Here's some of the bad news about sedentary lifestyles:? Forty... Read More
Q. We recently caught our son smoking pot, and we... Read More
They Spur Members To Grow EmotionallyTatiana Tannenbaum grappled with a... Read More
The time you will need to teach your children the... Read More
Under the "No Child Left Behind Act," public schools whose... Read More
Parental example, whether for good or for bad, is undoubtedly... Read More
It is so important to create an environment that promotes... Read More
Do you struggle to get your child to bed at... Read More
Children think money grows on trees. Maybe not literally, but... Read More
First there were Yuppies (Young Urban Professionals). Then came the... Read More
Parenting |