Did you know that you are the most important person in your child's life? Of course you did.
But did you know that parents of children with learning disabilities can also be their child's most effective advocate.
What exactly is an advocate? An advocate is someone who speaks up for someone else, or who acts on behalf of another person. As a parent, you know your child better than anyone else, and you are in the best position to speak for him and act on his behalf.
Here are 10 ways you can do that:
1. Realize from the beginning that advocating for your child takes a lot of time. Advocating involves a great deal of research, meeting time, and communication. That's a given. But the end result will be a successful,responsible, happy young adult who will be able to survive the pitfalls of the real world.
2. Be informed. The more you know about what is going on with your child, the more comfortable you will be in helping others understand him. Here are some ways you can become informed:
a. Read all you can about learning disabilities (especially your child's learning disability).
b. Attend conferences. That's a great way to learn and make contact with other people faced with similar issues.
c. Ask questions - seek answers.
d. Join a support group if there is one available. You can learn a lot from a support group.
3. Become familiar with the rules and regulations that apply to your child's special education program. You request copies of the regulations from your local school district office (the special education office, if your district has one) or from your state Department of Education. If you have difficulty understanding these rules and regulations, don't be afraid to ask the special education director or your child's special education teacher to explain them to you.
4. Work together closely with the professionals who work with your child. This should be done in a positive, cohesive way in order for the child to gain the maximum benefit. Get to know these people - talk with them on a regular basis. Volunteer in the classroom. Don't be afraid to ask for a meeting with the teacher(s) if you see something going on at home that can be helped at school, or vice versa.
5. Keep track of the paperwork that is given to you at the team meetings. This is valuable information that should be kept in an organized place so that you can refer to it easily. If you aren't sure how to do this, talk with the special education director or special education teacher. They have a system to keep the records organized in the office. Perhaps they would share that with you.
6. Don't be afraid to communicate with the professionals. Be prepared when you go to the team meetings, and don't be afraid to calmly and assertively state your views. Take notes into the meeting with you so you won't forget the questions you want to ask or the points you want to make. Remember, the professionals need insight from you as much as you need insight from them. The more communication you have, the more powerful the educational team to help your child.
7. Don't be afraid to ask questions. The field of special education is as complex as your child's needs. Asking questions doesn't mean that you are stupid. It just means that you are interested in your child's education and well- being and want to be an informed parent. You will most likely hear the professionals asking lots of questions as well!!!
8. Keep the lines of communication open with your child. Talk with him about his life both in and outside school. Allow him to express his frustrations, his successes, his disappointments, his hopes, his likes and his dislikes. The better you know your child and what is going on with him, the better you can help other people to work with him.
9. Know your child's strengths and weaknesses and share them with the professionals. Children with learning disabilities, although they have weaker areas, have many strong areas, too. By highlighting these areas, it makes it easier for the professionals to use them as tools to strengthen the weaker skills. It helps them see the child in a more positive light, and it helps them relate to the child. And it helps your child's self-esteem to know that the teachers sees good things in him.
10. Help your child learn to advocate for himself as early as possible. As time goes on, and your child has heard you advocate for him, he will be able to understand how to advocate for himself. If he's heard you say positive things, not only does it increase his self-esteem but it gives him the confidence to speak up for what he needs. Teach him how to communicate how he learns best, what he needs to help him get the most from his classes, and how he feels when confronted with certain issues, such as testing and peer pressure. Give him the power to make his life a success.
You can help your child be able to be a successful, happy, responsible student, well on his way to being the same kind of adult. Advocate for him.
For more plain talk about learning disabilities, please visit us at www.ldperspectives.com.
Sandy Gauvin is a retired educator who has seen learning disabilities from many perspectives - as the parent of a daughter with learning disabilities, as the teacher of children with learning disabilities, and as an advocate for others who have diagnosed and unrecognized learning disabilities. Sandy shares her wisdom and her resources at www.ldperspectives.com
express cleaning service Arlington Heights ..Spending quality time with your children doesn't need to cost... Read More
I used to have a really challenging job. It was... Read More
Although it's hard to say when the first stuffed dogs... Read More
Do your children have a McChildhood? Do they experience the... Read More
Single parenting has seemingly become an acceptable norm which is... Read More
Vouchers, which give tax money to parents to pay for... Read More
Many years ago, my children were raised on the various... Read More
As parents and teachers, sometimes we want to praise, at... Read More
Tripping over the shoes and toys that seem to clutter... Read More
Search for Assurance: The Power of BelongingThe job hunt is... Read More
Here in Kansas, where we live, the leaves are turning... Read More
Everyone knows that exercise is good for your health. Exercising... Read More
"The best blush to use is laughter: It put roses... Read More
Having been a parent educator and a PBS consultant for... Read More
Do you have a consistent problem with your child lying... Read More
The distressed adolescent often has feelings of abandonment, emotional detachment,... Read More
'I felt great until I walked into the classroom -... Read More
This time, I would like to talk about a subject... Read More
What a dreamer I am when thinking about parenthood. Most... Read More
When our oldest son was 2, my wife went out... Read More
Giving advice to a teenager is very easy; getting a... Read More
In stepfamilies, big holiday expectations can lead to big disappointment--and... Read More
Not nearly as often as it should. Most child abuse... Read More
Loving your step-child can be both simple and hard. It... Read More
Nothing touches the heartstrings of a parent or teacher more... Read More
tidy up service Arlington Heights ..Memorabilia ? Children can create enough artwork for an entire... Read More
I used to have a really challenging job. It was... Read More
Parents, do you have children who do poorly in school,... Read More
Do you struggle to get your child to bed at... Read More
Dear Sir, It was with some interest that I read... Read More
The big yellow school bus is coming down my road... Read More
The Theme from MASHI flipped the button on the remote... Read More
"All that I am or ever hope to be, I... Read More
Many companies advertise their products as being educational. How much... Read More
There are millions of young children in this country who... Read More
Children are notoriously bad at drinking enough liquids. They are... Read More
This article on parenting is by a practicing relationship counsellor/therapist,... Read More
Q. My teenage son is turning 16 early next year... Read More
Most people have more training before they receive their driver's... Read More
Who lives in your house? Are they driving you "crazy?"... Read More
Peaceful Parenting? ideas are very different from other kinds of... Read More
There has been much attention in the media of late... Read More
It's funny how people seem to think that they have... Read More
On one of her quarterly visits to see her grandson,... Read More
Although many parents become frustrated as they try to maintain... Read More
In the last 20 years we've all been introduced to... Read More
We are all so very happy to see that the... Read More
I have always been aware of my number one weakness:... Read More
There is nothing quite like hiking with small children. The... Read More
Sara loves pampering. Haircuts, facials, manicures, and makeup bring smiles,... Read More
Parenting |